Abstract

Everyone praises the value of love. This article challenges the the popular culture's emphasis on love as being loved, or at least receiving love in reciprocation for the love one gives.  It explains that real love takes us beyond self-centeredness and motivates us to connect meaningfully with another. Loving is really more about relationship partners giving of themselves and making sacrifices for each other, so as to keep their relationship…

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Abstract  

While it can feel safer to avoid expressing our true selves in a relationship, this is a risky strategy for anyone who wants to connect meaningfully. Acting pleasant and agreeable when we don't feel that way might help us get along superficially. But hiding our true feelings and needs from a partner causes distance and resentment. If we're basically compatible, by showing her or him who we really are we create a more satisfying…