"Beauty is truth, truth beauty," – that is all Ye know on earth, and all ye need to know. Ode on a Grecian Urn, J. Keats
Like many other people, I love to talk about the most recent developments on Game of Thrones. I have a little "fan club" among my circle of friends. We text about what happened. We discuss it over tea. We predict what might be happening and what patterns are being woven. We search the net for more ideas to share with each other. And we do it all over again each… Continue
Added by Gail Matheson, PhD on May 19, 2016 at 11:00am —
"A thought is harmless unless we believe it. It’s not our thoughts, but our attachment to our thoughts, that causes suffering. Attaching to a thought means believing that it’s true, without inquiring. A belief is a thought that we’ve been attaching to, often for years". - Byron Katie
What happens if you stop believing your thoughts?
1. You stop feeding drama with thoughts and words
One of the first things you notice when you stop believing your… Continue
Added by Gail Matheson, PhD on February 17, 2016 at 5:13pm —
"But that's not really me. I only did that because..." and you try to explain why you did what you did. You say it's because of something in the circumstances of the situation that made you behave as you did.
In psychology, we call this the Fundamental Attribution Error
. This core psychological concept says that when we are trying to explain behaviour, we say other… Continue
Added by Gail Matheson, PhD on October 23, 2015 at 7:54pm —
There are lots of lists out there that teach you how to blame the other person for your relationship issues. They suggest that if you eliminate "this type of person", you will be successful in love
Many spiritual philosophies suggest a) you attract what aligns with your vibration and b) the relationship will reflect your unexamined patterns and cherished beliefs. Together you will create a third entity called your relationship.
Here are signs that your unexamined patterns… Continue
Added by Gail Matheson, PhD on October 18, 2015 at 6:00pm —
Aging is optional.
Have you noticed that our stereotypes about "old" have been challenged in the last twenty years? People who are 50 look and act like 35 year olds. 70 year olds are running marathons. And there is always Betty White...
"Age is just a number, and agelessness means not buying into the idea that a number determines everything from your state of health to your attractiveness to your value." - Christiane Northrup
In the west, we live in a society… Continue
Added by Gail Matheson, PhD on October 18, 2015 at 5:30pm —
Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I'll meet you there. - Rumi
About a year ago, at a workshop on love, consciousness and tantric philosophy, I was introduced to a personally revolutionary idea: That boundaries are about where we meet, not places we need to defend. This was big to me because I had been told I needed to establish better boundaries, hold my boundaries, etc. While that advice was helpful, the context of a place where we meet… Continue
Added by Gail Matheson, PhD on June 19, 2015 at 4:24pm —
"I love you!", I giggled as I tickled my little girl, and we played on the bed.
"I love me too!", she yelled. I thought this was a good moment to connect.
"Great! What do you love about you?", I asked while snuggling her on a big pillow.
"Everything! I am kind and funny. And I am open. I even try to be open to loving people I don't like!" A few minutes later, she was asleep. I thought about her spontaneous reaction.
"Do not let anything that happens… Continue
Added by Gail Matheson, PhD on June 17, 2015 at 11:30pm —
One criticism that is leveled at spiritual seekers is the pattern of running after new spiritual practices as they emerge. In the consciousness community, you can find yourself facing the type of cliqueishness of main stream society. Instead of comparing summer homes, you can be subtly judged for your experiences, or experiences you don't choose.
One of my biggest ego traps is living up to who I believe I should be as a spiritual person. I should be vegan. I should be up at dawn… Continue
Added by Gail Matheson, PhD on December 29, 2014 at 11:26pm —
"All fear comes from thought in the form of memory (past) or projection (future). Thought creates time: past, present, and future. So fear exists and comes from the perceived existence of time. To be free of fear is to be free of time. Since time is a creation of thought, to be free of fear you must be free of thought. Consequently, it is important to awaken and experience your Self outside of thought, existing as eternity. So question all notions of yourself that are creations of thought… Continue
Added by Gail Matheson, PhD on December 19, 2014 at 3:18pm —
Comedians warn you that there are several danger questions that men just can't survive - do I look fat in this, do you think she's pretty, is there anything you would change about me. And of course why do you love me.
I have asked all those. Now, I will never ask you why you love me. To do so is really asking why do you like me. As soon as you start to think that way, you are reinforcing a seperate self in me and drawing my attention to how I can slice and dice myself as different… Continue
Added by Gail Matheson, PhD on October 2, 2014 at 2:30pm —
I love you.
I've never met you but I can say without hesitation that I love you. If I meet you, I will simply be more aware of it.
But there's no guarantee that I like you.
"I have yet to meet anyone that I didn't love. It's only when I filter them through my mind and endow 'them' with my thoughts do I have the time to like and dislike. Loving is easy, liking is recreational."-Troi Turi
To like you is to be alike. To be alike means that we value… Continue
Added by Gail Matheson, PhD on September 26, 2014 at 5:21pm —
I believe in old souls. Heck, I might be one. To me, an old soul has emotional and spiritual maturity. That maturity is less about exposure to spiritual teaching or even to spiritual practice. They seem to have self awareness and intuition. They reflect deeply on the nature of reality.Sometimes all that shows up in someone under 30. I've known a few.
Interacting with an old soul feels intense. An old soul often feels the yearning of consciousness wishing to express and experience… Continue
Added by Gail Matheson, PhD on August 27, 2014 at 9:00pm —
The best part of having a year of transitions is that you also have a basis to benchmark the things that have changed. That has been a profound source of WOW for me.
The last year has been a spiritual retreat and the retreat is nearing its end. Next week I begin a 3 year project with a client and so I am back into a daily routine. My biggest value is spiritual awakening and that will continue even as my circumstances change.
A year ago, my heart was broken so many times I… Continue
Added by Gail Matheson, PhD on August 11, 2014 at 1:12pm —
~Let's just be friends.
~I don't feel a connection. Let's be friends.
~I will always love you but I don't want a relationship with you. Let's be friends.
When did friendship become the fall back option? Why do we degrade friendship as the right relationship when a romantic relationship fails?
I believe sometimes you need to love someone from a distance, particularly when the intimate relationship has ended. There is a reason the relationship didn't work, and that… Continue
Added by Gail Matheson, PhD on July 25, 2014 at 6:46pm —
Everyone has a yoga pose that they resist. For me, it has been downward facing dog. Its a bit of a conundrum too, since it is a core pose. You need it for the Sun Salutation, it is a start into inversions, it can be a heart chakra opener. Its kind of a big deal!
I've made up excuses to avoid practicing it - I have bad balance, it gives me a headache and of course the surgery on my broken wrist has made the pose difficult. At times, the metal plate and screws in my wrist make the pose… Continue
Added by Gail Matheson, PhD on July 18, 2014 at 1:00am —
I laid in bed reading - one of the true pleasures to be found in bed! - and texting a friend to catch up on his week. He was teasing me because this week has been my week of crushes. I had been telling him about men who had started to show and interest in me, and that I found interesting, and I had spent time with each of them. I also systematically texted him after each encounter to tell him that I no longer had a crush. He sent me a few emoticons of distress and concern that made me… Continue
Added by Gail Matheson, PhD on March 29, 2014 at 12:46pm —
The challenge with modern psychology and some spiritual movements is that they try to replace a painful self image with a better one. But its the self image that is blocking us from experiencing the truth of reality from a place of awakening and consciousness.
This isn't really just the fault of our modern world view. Tantra has taught this exact truth for hundreds of years. Shiva sutra 3.3 tells us either you are in God consciousness and feel one with the world, or you are not and… Continue
Added by Gail Matheson, PhD on March 16, 2014 at 10:43am —
Gandhi is credited with the inspirational quotation "Be the change you want to see in the world."
No one would criticize me for not giving back to my community. I have worked in not for profit community agencies, spanning from suicide prevention to health care to education. I have served on some board or another for 20 years. I have fed the poor, donated closets of clothing, and countless dollars to charities. I have supported campaigns to end violence against women, mental health,… Continue
Added by Gail Matheson, PhD on March 10, 2014 at 8:14pm —
When you are sensitive to energy, whether as Highly Sensitive Person or as a reader of energy, you are aware of a level of dynamics that are very subtle but profound. When you come together with others in a conscious way, the feeling of connection and co-creation reflects the Truth. It may not be infallible or immutable truth, but its Truth of reality in that moment.
And then, in that dynamic, one of you says something that is Untrue. I don't mean a lie. I mean something that is… Continue
Added by Gail Matheson, PhD on March 6, 2014 at 12:00am —
Remember when the lead character Forrest Gump (played by Tom Hanks) says "Mama always said life was like a box of chocolates. You never know what you're gonna get."?
I was discussing relationships with a friend of mine. He has started dating again and at first was playing the field, dating a few women at once. He was honest and upfront about this with each of them. And one said it didn't work for her - if he wanted to see her it would have to be monogamous. He agreed to what she… Continue
Added by Gail Matheson, PhD on March 1, 2014 at 1:00pm —