After the death of my 24 year old son last year, I embarked on a journey of grief, and in the midst of this grief, I tried to find peace. Knowing that I needed support in dealing with my loss, I began researching different options for processing the pain. Continue
As a psychotherapist trained in utilizing bilateral stimulation and the use of eye movements for processing trauma, I was intrigued when I discovered that there was a therapist in Washington who was using…
Added by Carolyn Tucker LAPC on June 11, 2014 at 6:49pm —
Anxiety is pervasive in our world today. From the poor economic climate, to traffic, to tragedy in the news, our culture contributes as well. Our modern society is busting at the seams with stimuli that trigger symptoms of anxiety in our bodies and minds.
Have you noticed that you can go about your day with a sense of anxiety that flares up on an incremental basis? Even as our minds get busy, the physical… Continue
Added by Carolyn Tucker LAPC on March 13, 2013 at 7:12pm —
On a recent trip to the beach I was reminded again why I am such an advocate for the practice of earthing. Earthing is the act of coming into contact with the earth without wearing shoes in order to release negative energy. With the advent of rubber or plastic soled shoes many of us have lost the benefit of being “grounded.” Within a half an hour of being barefoot on the shore I felt like a new person.
There are studies that report the neuromodulative health benefits of earthing,… Continue
Added by Carolyn Tucker LAPC on March 13, 2013 at 7:00pm —
In this age of technology and digital communication, I have seen a growing trend in my practice of serious technology related issues in relationships. These issues can signal the beginning of the end for relationships as they can propel the couple to try to control each other and to descend deeper and deeper into codependency and mistrust.
Cell phones are wonderful things, they allow us to stay in constant communication in a myriad of ways, but they can be the source of much… Continue
Added by Carolyn Tucker LAPC on February 3, 2013 at 5:30pm —
"I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love." Mother Teresa
Many situations in life cause pain. Scorching , excruciating, soul-searing pain. It can come out of nowhere, your lover leaves, you lose your baby, cancer. All destined to turn your world on its ear and to leave you with deep, abiding pain. Alice Cooper described it as feeling like "the man with no skin." Sleep is evasive, being awake is intolerable, and it feels there… Continue
Added by Carolyn Tucker LAPC on January 12, 2013 at 5:30pm —
Receiving the news about the Connecticut school shooting this week was bone chilling and heartbreaking. Parents everywhere ran to hug their own children while feeling grief and pain for the parents of the school children, myself included. The world does not feel like a safe place when we cannot even expect that our elementary school aged children to be safe receiving an education.
It is overwhelming to add another fear to the anxious mix that parenting brings. How can you… Continue
Added by Carolyn Tucker LAPC on December 16, 2012 at 7:07am —
Let's face it, New Year's Resolutions are a cruel taskmaster. They are just an opportunity to put ourselves on the line one more time and then to guilt ourselves for not being able to follow through. I propose that it is better and more effective to make a bucket list at new year's rather than a list of resolutions. Living our… Continue
Added by Carolyn Tucker LAPC on December 10, 2012 at 9:59am —
Treating anxiety can be as easy as breathing! Literally! It is established that people who experience anxiety tend to be chest breathers. Breathing from the diaphragm can help bring fast anxiety relief. Unfortunately, it’s not so easy to do when an anxiety attack is occurring. Proper breathing must be learned and practiced beforehand. I will share two exercises below.
In the first, the goal is to be able to reduce… Continue
Added by Carolyn Tucker LAPC on December 3, 2012 at 1:00pm —
In 1984 I lived in Hilton Head Island, South Carolina. On the sleepy, conservative island there wasn't much to fear. However I found it quite homogenous, having just graduated from college, and I wanted to experience life. My first trip to New York City was during this year. I fell in love! Big city life was meant for me. It was my first exposure to so many things. Art and music and the energy of the city came alive to me. It was as if I took my first breath of life and would die before I… Continue
Added by Carolyn Tucker LAPC on November 30, 2012 at 7:00pm —
My parent’s home is a haven. My mother has a knack for creating a space that oozes nurturing. You never walk into her house when you don’t smell something delicious cooking. Everything is in its place. The towels are fluffy, the sheets are soft and there is a box tissues in every room. All the remotes have live batteries in them. Nothing in her home is broken. All the closets and drawers are neat and orderly. There is a feeling of love and care when you walk in the…
Added by Carolyn Tucker LAPC on November 29, 2012 at 9:22am —
Going through a divorce is tough, really tough. Going through a divorce during the holidays is excruciating. Everything you have known about the holidays changes, and if you have children it is complicated exponentially. There are few situations that inspire more anxiety than figuring holiday schedules for children and planning how you will fill the hours while they are with their other parent. Even if you do not have children, the holidays represent a… Continue
Added by Carolyn Tucker LAPC on November 25, 2012 at 5:47pm —
What are you afraid of? What is causing you to feel anxious and stressed? Many times when I ask clients what is causing them to feel anxious they are unable to identify the source of the feeling. I have heard it described as a rushing feeling of “what am I going to do?” but when asked “about what?” they can’t pinpoint anything that is wrong. This is called generalized anxiety
In my observation, there are a few things that seem… Continue
Added by Carolyn Tucker LAPC on November 18, 2012 at 1:50pm —
Living in an imperfect world is stressful. Imperfection can look many ways. It can look like an argument with a loved one, being let down by a friend, losing a job or even not being able to pay the bills. When things do not go how we want them to the imperfection seems to mock us and get us twisted into a bundle of nerves. Many of us walk around in distress much of the time due to our circumstances. Most of the discomfort we experience is from negative… Continue
Added by Carolyn Tucker LAPC on November 10, 2012 at 5:11pm —
Coming out, for the lesbian, can be a time of intense stress and anxiety. Once the decision is made and action taken, quality of life seems to increase. Several studies point to higher self esteem, higher levels on happiness scales and greater social support than their heterosexuals report. Making the decision to come out is difficult for some, and for others, not so much. The key seems to be plugging into a supportive community…
Added by Carolyn Tucker LAPC on November 4, 2012 at 2:30pm —
As the holidays approach I am convinced of one thing. I am a daddy’s girl and I am unashamed to admit it. My earliest memories consist of him coming in to tuck me in at night. His final words to me were always “You’re a sweet girl”, to which I always replied, “You are a good daddy.” I always drifted off to sleep knowing that I was cherished by a man who would give his life to know that I was safe and loved.
My school had a father/daughter dance when I…
Added by Carolyn Tucker LAPC on October 31, 2012 at 12:44pm —
So your relationship is over? Whether it is a divorce, a breakup with a long time partner or the dissolution of something that you felt would have potential, breakups are painful. My clients report being in literal physical pain after a breakup, and many do not know how to soothe the pain or where to turn to get better. Let’s discuss the energy of ending a relationship.…
Added by Carolyn Tucker LAPC on October 29, 2012 at 1:30pm —
Some of us have poor boundaries. Let’s admit it. When we were growing up we were shamed or ridiculed or bullied for asking for our needs to be met. We might have been made to feel “less than” when we stated what we wanted. This left us with a sense that we are not worthy to protect ourselves, that we are selfish or ridiculous to ask others not to trample us with their words or actions.…
Added by Carolyn Tucker LAPC on October 27, 2012 at 2:22pm —
New mother anxiety can be overwhelming. Not only do you wake up with a body you don’t recognize, a life that is nothing like the one glamorously portrayed in commercials, but you wake up with this tiny human in your home whom you may or may not connect with. Moms who do not feel immediately connected with their new bundles of joy report high levels of anxiety.
Inability to share these feelings is isolating. There may be reluctance to share with friends lest they…
Added by Carolyn Tucker LAPC on October 22, 2012 at 1:43pm —
When you suffer the symptoms of anxiety or depression nothing seems quite right. It is like the picture on the wall is slightly crooked, and your perceptions of everything are slightly skewed. Thoughts and feelings can feel muted. It may have been a very long time since you remember feeling good or being happy. To get back to that happy place requires a bit of discipline.
When I ask my clients with anxiety or… Continue
Added by Carolyn Tucker LAPC on October 15, 2012 at 1:49pm —
Anxious thoughts can hold you captive and keep you on a roller coaster of worry and fear. It seems that you are carried along by a cadre of thoughts over which you have no control. These thoughts wreak havoc on your mind and body. Your body bears the brunt of experiencing the hormonal cascade of adrenaline, norepinephrine and cortisol that come with being triggered by a thought that releases anxious energy into the body. The mind is assaulted by being… Continue
Added by Carolyn Tucker LAPC on October 14, 2012 at 2:00pm —