You are surrounded by thousands of people each day. You are constantly connected to them through email, text, and shared personal space. You are rarely alone, and you never have a moment of silence. Yet, the people you travel with are strangers on the subway, the “chatting” consists of texts or emails. Your friends live close by but you never see them, and the television has become your dinner companion. You rely on technology by exercising to DVDs, taking classes online and having meetings via Skype.
Basically your relationships are with electronic equipment.
In today’s society Facebook is our connection to friends and family, a text message is easier than a phone call, and interacting with a live human has become an archaic concept.
We live in a world where loneliness is what actually connects us.
Loneliness is linked to our heads and our hearts, and oftentimes it is at the root of a health issue.
Take for example, Rebecca, one of my clients whose recent health complaints had plagued her for years. She ate uncontrollably and was overweight, her menstrual cycle was missing and her stomach was often in knots. Rebecca was divorced, living in a new city and working in a job she enjoyed, but did not love. She ate dinner in front of the television and spent her weekends in solitude. She believed her loneliness was part of her destiny because most of her friends were married with children, and had lives of their own.
Instead of dealing with these difficult feelings, her body manifested her suppressed emotions in the form of health issues. She kept cursing her body for not supporting her, when in truth it was talking to her, she just wasn’t listening. Once she admitted her true feelings, her body responded beautifully, and her life began to open up.
Rebecca’s story is a lesson for all of us to be more present in our bodies and in our lives. What can you do to enrich your life and connect further?
Here are 10 Ways to Feel More Connected:
1. Send a handwritten note
When was the last time you received a thank you note or a handwritten card? This is a personal touch that seems to be a lost art. Reach out to someone today and connect in a more meaningful way.
2. Watch what you text
Even though you are tempted to text “Congratulations on your new baby boy”—don’t. This one requires a phone call.
3. Exercise in public
Instead of working out at home, alone, take an exercise class. You will be more motivated by the people around you, and you never know who you will meet.
4. Make weekly dinner plans
Meet a friend for dinner once a week. Share your life with someone and make it part of your routine.
5. Write about your thoughts and feelings
It is so important to be connected to your innermost thoughts. You can do this through journaling or just a short note to yourself each day.
6. Get some touch therapy
Human beings need physical contact to feel fulfilled. Try getting a massage, or giving someone a hug. It will work wonders for your body.
7. Adopt a pet
What could be better than unconditional love from a furry friend? They radiate healing energy!
8. Introduce yourself to a neighbor
Many of us have no idea who our neighbors are! Introduce yourself and feel more connected to your home.
9. Check Your Ovaries
Females, if you are dealing with menstrual issues ask yourself if you are feeling isolated. We can manifest our loneliness as an ovarian imbalance.
10. Map out Your Ideal Social Life
We are in control of our destiny. What do you want out of life? Imagine there are no restrictions. Now write out your master plan like you already have it. We can paint a perfect picture, but the first step is believing your life can change in an instant.