Many of us are in the process of letting go of the old to make way for the new. Our former careers, living spaces, and even friends are now falling by the wayside as our external world shifts. As uncomfortable as it may feel, this is a wonderful opportunity for us to reinvent ourselves as we establish new beginnings. What can we do to assist our internal world to find a sense of equilibrium again?
We must be open to trying new things, yet at the same time feel safe enough to take a risk. As a child and family therapist working with traumatized children, I learned the importance of providing a safe and trusting environment in order to foster change.
As we navigate the waters of our current uncertainty, we must create our own safe spaces for change to occur. Living in the present moment will assist us to find that safe space. However, even though are spirits are ready for the new, our egos may be holding us back.
How many of us have become immobilized with fear at the thought of making a change and trying something new? Often we get in our own way as we desperately try to hold onto the familiar in an attempt to keep ourselves safe. This sense of safety is an illusion. Living in the past keeps us stuck in a holding pattern circling aimlessly, waiting for the fog to dissipate so we can land in the present. Many of us also attempt to protect ourselves from future mistakes by trying to control outcomes. Living in the future gives our egos the power to constantly scan for potential danger. It is as if we are computers with one too many windows open. The rainbow colored ball is spinning nowhere fast.
How can we bring ourselves back into the present moment in order to reinvent ourselves?
1. R-Realize that as we come from a place of positive intention, every time we take a risk and try something new, we are moving forward. When we bring ourselves back to the present moment, we are able to have faith in the Universe and ourselves. The space between intention and manifestation is where we find our power. Edmond Allmond, composer, performer, and producer states, “There are no bad notes. A note played may not seem to fit with what came before, but what follows puts it in context. When we start with an idea and live on purpose, what we do each day makes sense.” As we reinvent ourselves, believing consistently in our full individual potential, we find that each event that unfolds for us weaves beautifully and with purpose into the fabric of our lives.
2. R- Remember that when we make choices that deliver unexpected outcomes, we are presented with wonderful life lessons. Every time our actions create consequences that we did not plan, we are provided with the opportunity for growth. In any moment we have the choice to learn from these teachable moments so they can be transmuted into spiritual evolution, or to allow our egos to use them to perpetuate the illusion of separateness. Life lessons are frequently uncomfortable and call for us to muster up a great deal of strength and courage. Stepping outside of our small selves into our higher Selves requires a consistent spiritual practice along with support and compassion from like-minded people. It is helpful to remember that it is a strength to ask for help. When we ask the Universe for help, friends will manifest to hold the space of faith for us until we are able to do it on our own. Then when the time is right, we will be able to pay it forward.
3. R- Release the need to create perfection. The mind will constantly attempt to take control of a situation and put it’s own limiting spin on new experiences. Whether it is looking for ways to produce an outcome, or prevent a calamity, it will always create a sense of fear of the unknown. Reinventing ourselves requires us to rise above the physical to the metaphysical. The more we are able to remember that the Universe will support us as we take action steps, the more at peace we will be. Many of us who are high achievers continually have to be reminded that our best is good enough. Our small selves may spend hours going up the down escalator in hopes of becoming faster or better than others. However, once we are able to access our higher Selves, we discover that perfection is not something to be achieved but to be rediscovered in the present moment. Reinventing ourselves requires us to approach life with fresh eyes and pure hearts. We have what it takes and we can do it together, one moment at a time.
Laura Goldberg has a Master’s Degree in Counseling Psychology, a Bachelor’s Degree in Child Development, and a Teaching Credential. She has worked with under served youth and their families as a Child and Family Therapist in the Foster Care System, a Positive Parenting Educator for Burmese refugees, and a Math and ESL Tutor. Currently Laura is a Life Coach helping individuals navigate the waters of change. Utilizing a strength-based approach, she has had the honor to assist many individuals work towards empowerment and increase their quality of life. Read more of Laura Goldberg's inspirational writing at http://navigatingthewatersofchange.wordpress.com