Queen sang the song "Somebody to Love" to reflect tension and disappointment in relation to God and the pain in life. I learned that when I looked the phrase up as a way of visioning my human partnership.  At first, I dismissed the phrase for the baggage of pain in the song. But then I realized it reflects the energy dichotomy I'm experiencing. 

In order to powerfully create, one must align vibrationally to the vision and draw on the emotion of having that vision. What comes up for me are the best moments from my past relationship.  Beautiful,  spiritual,  loving moments filled with connection and innocence and authenticity.  Moments that just don't get any better.

And then I choke in the grief of all that being over. That pain is not where I want to create from.  How do I use the contrast to inform my vision but not cut me off from Source?

Relationship endings reflect difference in vibration and vision of two people. I struggle with the vision part. When two people align vibrationally, why can't they create the right fulfilling relationship? The issue is in viewing ending as bad instead of the place from which we learn what we desire.

Many people say it is sad my marriage is over, and when I buy into that I feel horrible. It overshadows the incredible soul relationship that has evolved. A year ago, I did not want to share a life with this man. Today, I cannot imagine my life without him. I hold on to the beauty of that manifestation as proof of how infinite possibilities are.

So if I am to create the spiritual partnership I desire, I must move general enough to not be attached to who and how that emerges. I also must draw on past specifics to harness the magnificence of what has been that shapes my desire NOW. When I reframe into the knowing that all I want and have felt is part of me and will be manifest, the sadness and holding of what was shifts away.

You see, having someone to love isn't about "who you love", as the object. It's about finding a vibrational match that allows the full expression of Self. I just want to express that, share that, be all of me. I am most fulfilled when I can share myself, see myself, give myself - and feel that doing that means something to my partner.

My peak relationship moments have not been created this way in the past. They were oriented to the object/person and responded to that person. I did not recognize how much of Me was creating my experience. I know myself so differently now. I love myself apart from loving an object/person. The man who steps into vibrational harmony with me is going to be in for the time of his life.