The heart is one of the most vital organs in the human body: It keeps our blood flowing to supply oxygen and nutrients to the tissues and removing carbon dioxide and other wastes.
On a spiritual level, our heart is our center; our being. It contains balance, compassion, self-love, unconditional love, and our dreams and desires. Forgiveness, acceptance, change, growth and boundaries also live and thrive in a healthy and harmonious spiritual heart.
However, our hearts are not always in a good state: The physical heart gets damaged by emotional stress, anger and physical inactivity and can lead to heart disease and strokes.
Equally if we are unable to forgive and accept, and feelings of resentment are foremost in our mind we can seriously hurt our spiritual heart. Getting stuck in the past, real and perceived wrongdoings in specifically our relationships, and comparisons and “if only’s” and “should have’s” can stop this life pump from beating.
When our spiritual heart is broken, we close ourselves to the good and the bad that life has to offer and from which we are supposed to learn. We expect the worst, and we are ungrateful and unappreciative. We are also unwilling to learn new ways of being and doing, and limit our self-growth and development. There is always a lingering feeling of not being deserving of the good in life and thus comparing ourselves and our life to others. The death of a loved one, the end of a relationship or marriage, or having to give up on a life-long dream are all human experiences that can put a strain on our heart.
Healing the heart is an essential part of our overall well-being. When our heart is healthy and balanced, we have compassion for ourselves and others, we forgive our past, we accept what is, and we see everything and everyone as a lesson. We make space for new experiences and new people, and we invite abundance in all forms into our life – with open arms. We become curious about life again!
If it is time for you to let go of the past and look forward to the future again, here are four gentle yet powerful steps to heal a broken heart:
1. Honesty is the best policy
The first step to healing is to admit to ourselves that our heart is sore, that we harbor grudges, and that, perhaps subconsciously, we want to punish those people and experiences that had caused us grief. This is often the most difficult step in the healing process because we are scared to let go of heartache as we don’t know what will fill the gap. We are so used to living in the past and holding on tight to the hurtful feelings surrounding siblings, relatives, spouses, partners or friends, and even events that should we forgive the past we won’t have anyone or anything to blame for our lack of love or money or contentment.
2. Forgive ourselves, others and life
Forgiving those that have wronged us will set us free. It will send our life in a completely new direction. It will open us up to receiving.
However, be mindful that forgiveness always starts with oneself. We must forgive ourselves for allowing certain things to happen to use (like being abused by a spouse or partner), we must forgive ourselves for willingly and knowingly putting ourselves in specific situations (for not listening to our intuition around people and things), we must forgive ourselves for not knowing or doing better at the time.
The next level, deeper level of forgiveness is acceptance. Accept that it is the past. Accept that perhaps it had to happen in order for us to be where we are right now. Accept that if it was meant to be if would have been.
4. Be free
When we are free from past hurts we become a magnet for abundance in all forms. We must keep our heart open and not let events and people make us return to our old hurt and closed self. We have moved on from that. We know that we are responsible for our happiness. Become curious about life and people again. Get into generous mode again: Giving without expecting anything in return. Remember, it will come back. Perhaps not from the same source, but it will come back.
Lien Potgieter is a coach and color intuitive. She offers color readings to help you pinpoint the exact feelings and thoughts that keep you stuck in the past. Lien also offers a Love in Full Color programme for women whose hearts have been broken by an abusive partner. Download the 4 Powerful Steps to Gently Heal your Heart at www.thecolouroption.com