There's one theme that stands out in a lot of my conversations with the women entrepreneurs I work with: feeling overwhelmed.
These talented, dedicated women share that they're extremely busy, don't have time for themselves and have a hard time focusing because there's too much on their plate.
I get it, this was me last spring. But I ended up freeing myself from the paralyzing trap of feeling overwhelmed, and you can too.
My simple remedy? Presence. You can gently come back to presence through meditation, yoga or any practice that allows you to reconnect to your body and calm your mind.
But you can also cultivate presence if you simply stop doing these 4 things...
#1 Texting while in conversation with someone
If you want to build, maintain & nurture quality relationships (professional or personal) not texting while in the middle of a conversation would be a good start.
Not only can the other person clearly see you’re not paying attention, but you’re wasting everybody’s time by not being fully present.
Instead, when you show up fully present, you set the space for magic to happen.
I admit, I used to be the Queen of Multitasking. I would proudly say that I could do AT LEAST 3 things at the same time. Listen to webinar while reading emails & eating lunch: check! Until I realized none of these things were done well (nor enjoyed) at all.
Multitasking also meant making more mistakes, being clumsy, hurting myself and breaking things. Try talking on the phone while letting the dogs out while holding a hot cup of tea. (Ouch.)
Bringing focus and attention to only one thing at a time means that I now get things done faster and I don’t have to do it twice (nor burn myself with hot tea). Saves me time in the end plus, I get to enjoy myself a lot more when I slow down, focus and don’t multi-task.
Give your full attention to only one task at a time and see how that turns out. Chances are you’ll be amazed at the result.
#3 Keep your head overflowing with thoughts & ideas
Have you ever made it to the grocery store only to realize that you can’t recall the drive there? It could be the most glorious day with the most fantastic weather and yet, you enjoyed none of it.
Yep. Guilty again.
While I wonder who was actually driving the car (I was, after all, sitting in the driver’s seat) the only thing I could remember is how full of thoughts my head was. I also distinctly remember feeling like my head was going to explode and that my vision was blurred. (No narcotics I assure you.)
I wish I had Dumbledore’s magic wand. You know the one where he removes memories & thoughts to store them away in a container? How freeing would THAT be!
Instead, I empty my head by regularly taking notes when ideas or to-dos spring up. If I’m driving somewhere I call my fiance and ask him to take notes on my ideas. (Drives him nuts.)
I also take time to ground myself during the day by going outside in nature, exercising or doing a short pranayama (breathing exercise).
Clearing my head makes me feel more present. (We’re back to presence again.) More presence means creating the space where miracles can happen.
#4 Checking your emails every five seconds
This obsessive-compulsive habit tends to plague new entrepreneurs more than others.
Checking your emails every 5 seconds, however, won’t create new clients, or get that amazing creative project completed or that best-selling book written. It’s a distraction. It’s a trick.
Ask yourself: “Do I really need to read/answer this email right this second?” or “Is this really the emergency they're making it out to be?” Chances are the answer is no.
So close your inbox or whatever other ringing devices you have that alerts you to new messages. Commit to checking + answering your emails only twice a day or (not for the faint of heart) only a couple times a week.
You'll discover that the planet is still spinning on its axis and that clients are still eagerly interested in your work. Money will still flow in because you’ll be focusing your time, energy and attention on projects that matter and that will have a bigger impact on your biz and ultimately your life.
We all get carried away in the feeling overwhelm once in a while (or very often for some of us) but the key is to not let it take over and be the dominant energy in our life.
Cultivating presence is a moment to moment practice but ultimately, it can be as easy as setting boundaries and letting go of habits that don’t serve us anymore. And when presence becomes the flow we navigate on, life becomes effortless, filled with ease & a deep sense of serenity sets in.
I’ll take that over the feeling of overwhelm anytime.
Caroline Frenette is a an Intuitive Leadership Coach & the founder of The Intuitive Leadership Academy. She works with women entrepreneurs who want to create a thriving business and an extraordinary life by tapping into the wisdom of their inner CEO. Visit her website carolinefrenette.com to learn more.
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