It’s that time of year when we reflect on the past and plan for the future, and that means resolving to change those habits or circumstances that we’ve been unhappy with. For many of us, it also means making the same resolutions we’ve made—and haven’t fulfilled—year after year. Even though we all desire or even need to make changes in our lives, whether we are aware of it or not many of us are resistant to letting go of old habits. When we make New Year’s resolutions we often have unrealistic ideas of how to overcome and stop these resistances from sabotaging our resolve to change. Then once again we find ourselves frustrated and unable to move forward. Instead of fighting and struggling with resistance learn to embrace and work with it so you can finally break its hold on you. Here are a couple of steps to help you achieve success in 2011 with your resolutions from my book Wise Mind, Open Mind: Finding Purpose & Meaning in Times of Cri...:
Step One: Acknowledge & Understand Your Resistance
The first step in embracing your resistance is to identify what it is and if you have any hidden ones. In my book I give readers different exercises to help them with this. Once you have acknowledged them the metaphor I like to use is to mulch your resistances as opposed to overcoming them. There is an ancient Buddhist story of two farmers living next to each other. One farmer takes all of his horse manure and keeps throwing it over the fence into the other farmer’s yard. About six months later, he notices the other farmer’s tomatoes are gigantic, his pumpkins are huge, his corn is green and his front yard is filled with tall grass. I don’t believe that we can ever get rid of certain resistances or emotions so instead it is important to work with mulching them.
Step Two: Learn the Payoffs to Your Resistance
The next step is to understand the payoffs of resistance, as these are what are holding you back from moving forward. Here are five basic ones:
This New Year is a time of rebirth following so many months of pain and difficulty during these harsh economic times. This is the year that we can RISE from the ashes of our pain and turn them into healthy vibrant and creative mulch and for people to re-invent themselves by transforming their breakdowns into breakthroughs. But making real outer change begins first with an internal journey and mindfulness is a powerful tool to help you navigate the inner recesses of your mind and psyche.
Ronald Alexander, Ph.D. is the widely acclaimed author of Wise Mind, Open Mind: Finding Purpose and Meaning in Times of Crisi.... He is the Executive Director of the OpenMind Training® Institute, practices mindfulness-based mind-body psychotherapy and leadership coaching in Santa Monica, CA, for individuals and corporate clients. He has taught personal and clinical training groups for professionals in Integral Psychotherapy, Ericksonian mind-body healing therapies, mindfulness meditation, and Buddhist psychology nationally and internationally since 1970. (www.openmindtraining.com)
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