Wishing you could go back and re-teach your children?
Well, many to a certain degree have pondered these thoughts as we gracefully age.
Society teaches us to be successful; we must drive ourselves to be the best at everything we hope to accomplish. We must be competitive.
This breeds the concept known as a goal of "being accepted".
Along the way, we gather as much attention as we can to spur this ego ridden idea.
From the first day of entering the education system, we receive our certificates of accomplishments, gold stars, best grades, trophies, etc. On the other hand, our punishment, if we don't live up to others expectations.
Wanting the best for your children comes from a parent's heart and is rooted in love. How we portray this is another story.
Concepts are handed down from generation to generation and vary within different cultures. It has thrived through the ages within whomever taught us to acquire this need which rides upon competitions back.
The only way to stop the chain of these "misconceptions" is to change our own perception of how we accept them or not, give them a new meaning...get a new view.
Suffice it to say, competition makes this world go around. We see it not only in our education system, but also in sports, relationships, and our personal lives.
Having a "need" to be accepted is a sign of living a life dominated by the ego. Simply said, this is exactly where this "need" originates.
A small child might be shy or bashful. In most cases, the parent may "push" the child to be more assertive. Involving them in piano lessons, ballet lessons, sports, etc is examples of this push. The motivation of these lessons is not one from a heart of allowing.
Parents are focusing on their own need. There is a saying which goes like this, "If your needs are not being met, change your needs".
Contemplate this saying, a suggestion of "what is a need?" to begin with. Are needs actually necessary?
We find there are two needs that exist, one being physical and the other is emotional.
We are an out of balance society...BIG TIME!
There is our basic needs for water, food, oxygen, heat, cool, etc in order to physcially survive. Even these things can be out of balance, founded by the situation of our health these days.
In order to emotionally survive, there are needs we are taught to live with. These are not necessarily good or bad. For instance, if we did not know what pain felt like, how would we determine the meaning of pleasure?
There are many things we automatically feel from our hearts, but we don't always choose to listen to this "gut feeling". Why? Because of the ego ridden concepts taught to us.
It is of no use to be "mad" or upset with those adults who raised us, they only taught what they knew.
To witness a change in our society, we must choose to allow a shift in our own conscious, one moment at a time. Choose to live a life of obscurity rather than demanding attention.
This desire to receive attention or acceptance is not always obvious. We go about our daily lives with no thought of this. Becoming aware is a key component of changing your perception of how you perceive yourself and your make up.
A few steps to accomplish a goal of living a life of obscurity is simple.
Discover what a need is. Discover the purpose of the ego. The ego can not be banished; it is a permanent fixture in our being. Allowing ego to teach us the difference in a life of peace and a life of confusion is detrimental to our well being.
When a concept from the ego arrives, recognize it, embrace it with unconditional love void of judgment, then let it go. Replace it with a concept from the heart...this is how peace within is born. Allow this peace to flurish.
We find a quiet strength available for us to rest in. Stress, confusion, doubt, comparison, misunderstanding, low self-esteem, fear...is all disapated.
Desire a life of obscurity opposed to a life of needs to be seen and heard. Use your voice silently.
A life of inner calmness, independance, and strength awaits us.
What better way to teach others than to live accordingly... quietly and obscurely.
Understanding this...becomes a simple truth