Abstract:  How living in an addicted society can keep our destructive habits overlooked and considered part of how life is. How we loose sight of our disconnection with self and our source. Deluding ourselves into believing that using fixes will make our lives feel better, only to lead us down the rabbit hole of lack, fear and powerless. How fixes literally fixate our energy and personal power.  A list of common fixes we often dismiss. How to release these destructive habits.

Living in an addictive society our destructive habits are often overlooked and considered part of how life is. It is common to loose sight of how disconnected we feel from ourselves and our source with it's greater intelligence. It leads us to a desperate attempt to fix the uncomfortable reality we find ourselves in. In the attempt to lessen our discomfort we look for fixes that will distract us from the truth of what is really happening. We learn to use our thoughts, feelings and behaviors as habitual ways to disconnect from the  source that is always there to help us bring resolution. We delude ourselves by trying to use fixes to make our lives feel better, only to lead us down the rabbit hole of lack, fear and powerless. What if we admit how we have been lying to ourselves and commit to a new context of living? A context of embracing our discomfort, staying connected and living in whole being wellness?

Using a fix to escape our discomfort literally fixates our energy and personal power in a way that keeps us feeling powerless to have the experiences we want. These process addictions are habitual coping mechanisms that end up creating more discomfort and desperation. Thinking, feeling and acting as if we are powerless is one of the least talked about fixes. We perpetuate this with shallow breathing, no movement and holding onto the belief that we are powerless to make a change. We hold it in place by convincing ourselves that if we feel, vibrate and express the depth of the powerlessness we feel we may discover that our powerlessness is real, so will will have to resign to the fact that this is just how we are.

 Process addictions that we may be using include…

• Over thinking  
• Self importance/Self rejection 
• Trying to fix, control and manipulate 
• Shame/Shamelessness 
• Resentment
• Being a victim
• Drama 
• Worrying
• Turning everything into problem
• Shame
• Feeling abandoned
• Comparing
• Overwhelm
• Obsessive talking
• Criticizing and judging
• Over working
• Guilt 
• Pain/Suffering
• Obsessing about the past
• Trying to be the best
• Self pity
• Never enough

So how do we release these habitual fixes? It begins with making a decision with the willingness to admit the truth and go through withdrawal as with any other addiction. It takes rounding ourselves up and being fully present. It requires cultivating the sobriety that makes us capable to build power. 

• Ask the question: “What is the nature of experiencing a new context of living with a continuous flow of whole being wellness that fulfills and satisfies us?”
• Practice staying connected with ourselves, our source and greater intelligence. Allow our source to provide the insights, information and guidance we need to take the next steps. Create time and space for what we want and need in our lives.
• Love ourselves unconditionally as we embrace and nurture whatever comes up in our process.
• Learn to move, circulate and vibrate our energy. Make space for our feelings to come out of hiding as feel them all the way through.
• Disengage our addictive control. Do what it takes to release the control in our bodies. Make a safe and open space for our feelings to come out of hiding.
• Listen to our inner guidance and make healthy choices sooner than later. Make changes when resolution is easy rather than dismissing and avoiding change until we find ourselves in crisis.
• Be willing. Allow suspension of our perceptions and tensions long enough to make a shift. Remember, we establishing new pathways.
• Be in nature and let it support us in letting go.
• Let go of static thinking, rigid beliefs that keep us thinking we are powerless victims of our continuity.
• Engage in new activities. Visit new places, take different routes and change our routines.
• Meditate on a greater vision. Imagine a reality free of control and manipulation.
• Go through withdrawal. Embrace any symptoms that arise in our process. Support the release of toxins and other by-products as we release control. Remember we are establishing new pathways. Stay alert to snapping back into the old continuity just as we are about to make the shift.
• Remember that breaking habits takes practice. Notice and write down the details of the thoughts, feelings and behaviors we use as fixes. Then describe the new ways of thinking, feeling and behaving we are choosing to make the changes we want.
• Be with people who align with our values. People who are highly committed to exploring, discovering and practicing a new context of living.
• Appreciate the journey of watching our habits to dissolve, resolve and evolve in their perfect timing. 

About the author: Crystal is a certified expansion guide with the Total Integration Institute, author, multidimensional coach and facilitator for the live event called Freedom at the Core. She is the instructor and coach for her online course, Freedom From the Inside Out. She draws from her own experience and the experience of the thousands of people she has worked with over the past 35 years. Crystal is known for the fun and empowering way she supports people in bringing forth the experiences they want in their lives.

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