ASIAN LOVE – Real OR Practical
The three words together sound a little out of alignment : love – real or practical ? Now one may wonder what has love to do with reality or practicality so to speak.
Love does resonate with spiritual love or real / true love and the like…What on earth love has to do with practicality ? Yes loads! A lot has been said about ‘being in love’, ‘true love’, ‘bliss’ and so on and so forth but does anyone ever look at the other end wherein it’s a lurking ‘practical life’ slapping right on your face .Especially when you find ‘you are in love’ but trust me with the most unthinkable person ever! Why so because your energy just wants a similar vibe to behold but has nothing to do with the 3rd dimensional ‘survival kit’…money, food, shelter … Love is there but you have nothing to protect it or to say I will take care of you . What do you do than ? Do you say ok let’s just end it! Or let’s just get ‘rich’ and than proceed or let’s live in a fool’s paradise ? Your choice and your call ! If you are connected to source and feel otherworldly than honestly you will anyday be better of being in fool’s paradise than in a practical ‘hell’ ! As they say when did love learn bargaining ? Yes all the time, in a culture which gives more value to the ‘adornments’ of a person than what lies ‘beneath’ - the ‘soul’ .
Let’s examine the Asian culture where one is brought up with some heavy conditioning . Asians especially Indians have this deep rooted ‘culture paranoia’. They are well respected and loved by their kith and kin if they please their elders and follow the family’s wish and override their own. When it comes to marriage they are expected to follow their parent’s choice of bride / groom even if it means ruling out their choice. One is taught to ‘look’ for ‘love’ in the same ‘caste’ and ‘status’ as one is born and brought up in. This sounds hilariously ridiculous but stark ‘truth’. And the funniest part is like a blind fool one does exactly as the so called ‘elders’ and their fatalistic paradigms want you to do. Lest they realize what a hell their offspring are getting into . And to top it all their children end up marrying the so called ‘status worthy’ soulmate …trying to figure out the ‘soul within’ much later. And such alliances are incredibly successful as the practical quotient is very high…similar background, financial position, status and rank and file ….so here we have an exemplary marriage of two practical souls . Now what happens to the love aspect, yes that too suddenly blooms out of nowhere ….all of a sudden the two strangers figure out that “they are made for each other”….and even if they are not (which happens all the time) they better be – for “all practical reasons” ! So we have a “practically lovable union” of two blind fools! Now one may think what happens a couple of years later. Ya that’s the best part, half of such ‘blooming love later' marriages fail and the other half end up living like strangers under the same roof! And if at all a few are successful than that’s a ‘risk’ well ‘invested’ …so to speak!
Asian love stories are sometimes the most hilarious kind of love stories where one falls in to realize they actually were meant to fall out or suffocate till death do us part. Quite a situation ! All they reason out is they are doing this to please their elder’s , can’t get more insane than this. Especially when it comes out from the so called ‘spiritually evolved souls’ .Irony at it's best. Because if one is spiritual and seeing things at soul level than every relationship just has a tag may not be ‘younger’ or ‘older’ to you per se. Weird are the ways some of us fathom life. And to top it all Asians are considered the ‘spiritual bowl’ of the world ; where many spiritual masters have walked their talk…and are doing it now too. So why this split perspective ? Especially in a century which is now evolving faster than technology or if not fast at least we can say ‘getting there’ .There is something called the ‘comfort zone’; it’s something like if I succeed it’s a win win situation if I don’t than I can put the blame on my folks, sounds easy? That is exactly the whole ‘practical love’ thing is all about. And also the fact that we want to spiritually evolve till it is ‘comfortable’ beyond that, who cares? Quite a well thought or shall we say ‘spiritually practical’ side of Asian evolution it is! The best part is everyone feels this ‘superficiality’ and ‘dispersion’ but no one really wants to talk it out ‘loud’. Why ? It will hurt sentiments ? Whom so ever it may concern. Even the millennial's ring in the same voice the only difference is they are fluid about it and it’s more like a light hearted banter for them. The Asian millennial’s theory - love the ‘real’ but marry the ‘practical’ so in the end, love has served it’s purpose and practicality has done the parent stuff. Cool ! If everyone could be so conveniently splitting the ‘real ‘ from the chaff wonder the day is not far when we will look for ‘practical love’ which is ‘techno savvy’ too.
Now few of the readers would contest that this is not the case at all…things are changing! Yes by all means they are and trust me …they should ! The only thing which is still to transition is the ‘mindset’ or shall we say, mind blocks.
Sunanda’ s Bio
Sunanda Sharma is a professional Tarot Card Reader, Psychic, Author and Life Coach .She is a member Elite Psyche Team - Best American Psychics 2013, Member of Certified Psychic Society 2013 , Winner Tarot Super Achievers Award 2012 India. She is a published author. She has written two books of Spiritual/Inspirational genre "Inspiration from the Spirit Volume I" and "Inspiration from the Spirit Volume II". You can reach her at www.sunandatarot.com