Its always exciting to meet someone for the first time and begin to explore the chemistry between you two. There is an abundance of fresh energy and every step, even those into the unknown are filled with the hope of possibility.
While determining whether or not you and a potential mate will be compatible is based on many different facets of personality astrology is a fantastic way of getting to know the person behind the mask. In fact, its one of the first things that I look into when I am reading a client’s compatibility with a new beau is whether their two Sun signs are known for being compatible. Just like planets, zodiac signs form Aspects with one another that are either favorable or unfavorable.
Let’s explore what signs are best paired together and can provide you with a greater foundation upon which you can build a lasting relationship.
Aries is a fire sign ruled by Mars which means that they are feisty go-getters with a desire for fun and enjoyment. Aries need people who have pep in their step and who are willing to go toe to toe with them in and out of the bedroom. A willingness to think outside the box, keep things spontaneous and have a healthy sense of competition are a must to keep an Aries interested. They are quick to fall in love but quick to fall out if they are not stimulated on a mental, physical and emotional level. They need those who are self assured and capable keeping their emotions in check as there is only room for one emotional tantrum at a time.
Best Matches for an Aries: Leo, Aquarius, Sagittarius and Gemini.
Taurus is a fixed (immovable) Earth sign ruled by Venus which is primarily concerned with prosperity, calmness, safety and reliability. While being ruled by Venus makes them have a keen appreciation for fine food, fine sheets, and beauty in its many forms their Earth quality requires that they do not seek any of these things at the expense of their security. Romantically they need someone who is loyal, calm and can check their drama and debt at the door. They need someone who can seduce them with some wining and dining which means that a cooking class may be in order for those seeking a role in the Taurean life. Water signs help to open us an otherwise solid steal heart of a Taurus.
Best matches for a Taurus: Virgo, Capricorn, Cancer and Pisces.
Gemini is a mutable (changeable) air sign ruled by Mercury. This makes our Gemini friends quick witted, good communicators and very open to change. Though they are often considered scattered because of their tendency to flit about from one idea or drive to another there is usually a well thought out reason motivating their actions.
Gemini’s need someone who is open to change, well versed on both pop culture and world affairs and someone who is willing to push their limits in the bedroom. Water signs in general are not the best matches for Gemini. Gemini’s are not known for being gushy or super romantic.
Best matches for Gemini: Libra, Aquarius, Leo and Aries.
Cancerians are watery cardinal (assertive, strong) signs who are rather difficult to profile. Just as no to stretches of water are alike no two Cancerians are alike. While those who fall under the sign of Cancer can range from boring and repressed to entertaining and extroverted there is one thing just about ever Cancer needs: a stable home life. Stability, nurturing, sensitivity is all important to most Cancers and as such will need to be considered by anyone looking to take up residency in their hearts. They do not trust easily and because of this tend to enter into commitment very slowly. They need to know that you are in it for the long haul so those who are looking for emotionless affairs need not apply.
Best matches for Cancers: Scorpio, Pisces, Virgo, Taurus.
The mighty Lions of the Zodiac are a fixed fire sign ruled by the Sun. The are high energy, flamboyant and perhaps even exceed the quick wit often attributed those who fall under the sign of Gemini. Not just into the superficiality of being the center of attention Leo’s want to succeed in all that they do. This means that they tend to take charge, even in their romantic liaisons. Though they are just as capable of having a long term relationship they are quite capable of separating emotion from sex. This allows them to still have fun even while continuing their search for someone who will measure up to their ideal.
Leo’s need someone who doesn’t mind that once they find something that works they rarely stray from that. Leo’s also require validation that they are doing a good job as a partner and as such need someone who doesn’t mind lending them that encouragement.
Best matches for a Leo: Aries, Sagittarius, Gemini and Libra.
Virgos are a mutable Earth sign. Virgos are seeking self perfection, strength of character, reliability and efficiency. Virgos are exceptionally confusing in love: they have a steely exterior that often causes them to treat their partner like a project they have to fix all the while hiding a very soft, warm and vulnerable center.
Virgos are not known for their effusive romance so those who are looking to be showered with affection and told they are beautiful several times a day are better off moving on. Virgo will show their love through acts of service and need those who already have a solid foundation of confidence beneath them.
Virgos will play hard to get at first because they are afraid of showing just how vulnerable they really are. Chances are if your Virgo lover is a hyper perfectionist who spends more time critiquing then they do offering encouragement chances are they have been taken for the proverbial romantic ride and are guarding their hearts carefully. They also need things to follow a natural progression so they will move slow and take time in each phase of a relationship.
Best matches for a Virgo: Taurus, Capricorn, Cancer Scorpio.
Librans are the sign that loves love! They are a cardinal air sign ruled by Venus. They are most concerned with partnerships, romance, fairness, harmony and sophistication. Librans are the great analyzers of the zodiac and rest assured that every little aspect of a potential mate and the connection will be evaluated in great detail before Libra will proceed. They are not a fan of drama and while this is true for just about all of us Librans tend to take this to another level. Their sense of inner peace is highly related to their outer circumstances. If there is drama and chaos in their lives they will not be able to find any sense of inner balance. Because of this they tend to be very careful when choosing a mate. Whether the relationship will in fact last is a question they will analyze ad nauseam. Until they are sure that the connection has the potential to go the long haul they will not open their hearts fully.
Best matches for Libra: Gemini, Leo, Aquarius, Sagittarius.
Scorpios is a fixed water sign ruled by Mars and Pluto making them one of the most mysterious of all the signs. They are concerned most with understanding the great mysteries of life and death, transformation, secrets and the collective unconscious.
This is not a sign that is concerned with trivial small talk and will zero in on what makes you most interesting. They are great at getting you to divulge your deepest secrets and even those who try to resist only fuel the interest of the Scorpion. This innate curiosity and desire to truly know someone and understand them often times leads others to think that Scorpios are more attached than they really are. In truth Scorpios are just naturally incredibly curious and equally incredibly guarded with their hearts. They need someone who will provide them with unyielding loyalty. They are highly independent which means they do not “need” a relationship and are just fine holding tight until they find someone who is truly suitable. Someone who is highly intelligent and communicative coupled with a strong and stable foundation is needed. Sexually they are in need of someone who is high energy as they are known for being one of the most sexually explosive and adventurous of the signs.
Best matches for Scorpio: Cancer, Pisces, Virgo, Capricorn.
Sagittarians are ruled by Jupiter and are a mutable fire sign. They are most concerned with idealism, freedom, optimism and pleasure. Sagittarians are the great explorers of the zodiac and are constantly jaunting off on their next adventure. Pleasure always is high on the priority list for a Sagittarian but relationships are not. Sagittarians often see relationships as confining and as such tend to avoid them. Its not that they do not want a relationship; they simply find the responsibility of a relationship to outweigh the potential fun. Sagittarians need someone who is capable of flying by the seat of their pants, to enjoy having an open relationship for awhile with the potential for progression to commitment. Most of all they need a partner who understands their need for freedom and to occasionally fly off and do something on their own. Anyone who can provide this will be rewarded immensely. Sagittarians are incredibly fun, supportive and loyal once they commit to you.
Best matches for Sagittarians: Leo, Aries, Libra and Aquarius.
Capricorn is ruled by Saturn and the element Earth. They are very much the practical Pennies of the zodiac and place a premium of what each of the 5 senses have to share with them. This can make their romantic MO a little lackluster for those signs who are looking for more overt displays of affection and love. They prefer to show their love and affection through providing stability and structure. They also do not fall easily for they are exceptionally cautious and aware that the world of emotions can lead to a certain level of unpredictability which they are not always comfortable with. They desire security and for them relationships take a great deal of time to build; trust is not easily given by Capricorns. Additionally, they will not let their emotions just hang out there for the world to see. They will be subtle and private about what is in their heart.
Best matches for Capricorns are Virgo, Taurus, Scorpio and Pisces.
Aquarians are ruled by Uranus and Saturn and the element of air. They are known for dancing to the beat of their own drum and in love this is all the truer. They are not quick to jump into commitment; in fact, they love the chase and can easily separate emotion from the physical act of sex. They can be exceptionally confusing; warm one moment and aloof the next. This is due in part to their ruling planets Uranus (rebellion) and Saturn (structure). They will often rebel against traditional relationships but this should not imply that once they commit they are not loyal. They are actually quite loyal and will support you fully. They need partners who are capable of holding their own-if constant validation is preferred they are not likely your bowl of cereal.
The best matches for Aquarius are Libra, Gemini, Sagittarius and Aries.
Pisces are ruled by the element water and the planet Neptune. They are a sign ruled by love but this should not imply that being with them is easy. In fact, they can be difficult to roll with. You have your upstream fish and your downstream fish-those who go after what they want and those who are more apt to go with the flow and even be self sacrificing to a fault. Some Pisces fish can alternate between the two. They need quite a bit of external validation but rest assured they will give back what you lavish them with. Those who are critical or like to act superior to their Pisces partner will find another themselves facing another facet of the fish: the cut throat, vicious shark. They need signs who are comfortable with deep conversation and are unafraid of showing and verbalizing their affection. Even signs who are not typically the most emotionally open will find their Pisces lover opening them up in ways they never imagined.
Best matches for Pisces are Cancer, Scorpio and Taurus.
Now before you begin greeting your date with “Hey, baby, what’s your sign?” remember that astrology is a multi layered discipline. We are shaped by a variety of circumstances and astrology is but one of the spokes on the wheel. For example, my husband is an Aquarius who is not commonly considered a good match for a Pisces, such as myself; yet we make it work. Just because you are not necessarily considered a “good match” shouldn’t leave you feeling that the relationship is doomed to fail. Trust your gut and use astrology as a means of deciphering whether there is enough foundation to build upon. If you each work together to turn similarities into new shared bonds there is no limit to what you can create together!
Laura Brown is a wearer of phenomenal shoes, drinker of delicious wine, and diviner of relationships. She is the owner and Relationship Goddess ofModern Sibyl, a contemporary hub for receiving modern intuitive readings and relationship coaching to reach your highest romantic aspirations. Stay up to date through her Facebook page and receive free daily intuitive tarot readings by following her on Instagram.