The abhorrence of pain is the result of all pain. We all are trained by the belief of the pain to go in a direction which is opposite of pain and in the direction of comfort and easy. However how many of has seen that the great escape form pain and after that happiness for ever-after theory as depicted in so many of our movies does not work well in our real lives.
The pain is guidance system to that which works and what does not work in the long run. We cannot reject pain. We can see the source of pain that it is coming from then choose to accept, integrate and transcend it this way or we can choose newly. Either way there will be some pain in the beginning as we learn to negotiate the new curves in our life.
It seems like life has an unending penchant for new things that means new rules, new horizons, adventures and along with that comes new learning. Pain is the initial phase of the old letting itself go and the beginning of the new. And, the more we resist the more it persists and more the pain it creates in our lives.
By the way Pain is also not a personal thing to possess or reject. This is a process of life for completion of the past and every new beginning. Just like the birth of a new baby brings with it a lot of excitement and pain simultaneously and the mothers are so stiffed in their love for their offspring that all the pain is a new learning experience and a new venue to express their love for their offspring their children.
There is no end to it; it continues till life continues only our perspective changes and along with it our capacity to accommodate and grow from pain to the point that it is no longer seen as a pain but a new opportunity for life to expand in new directions which were not possible before when we were living in our comfort zones. And, in this way we transcend pain by using it for the betterment of ourselves and the betterment of others.
Countless are our teachers with an horrendous past. They are where they are and enjoying their life now unconditionally not because they ignored their pain or submitted to the pain and gave away their life in pain and agony. They chose differently than most of us by choosing to look at life differently and by choosing to extend their life beyond pain. They learned from it and grew from the conditions that created the perception of pain in their life to a perception of newly found horizon, wisdom, love, freedom and joyful expression of themselves. They are not ashamed of themselves any more for their past and using it as a tool to teach others. That which was always hidden within them before revealed itself through the pain that they experienced in their life. This is how they earned the right to teach us what they teach now and they are the best teachers we have.
So, grateful that Pain could teach something to us that the joy of comfort never did.
Seems like this is the way life works and we have but no choice other than to learn from our various sources of pain and grow from it. Resistance seems to be futile as it only prolongs and increases the amount of pain that we experience. The remedy is to accept it, look at it with the intent of learning rather than escape and then grow from it. The growing part happens automatically and we don't have to do anything about it when we are not facing away.
Life is a growing and joyful experience if only we knew how to look at life and see eye to eye with it. They have already said it No Pain No Gain.
This is not something new that has been said here and is there in the plain sight for every one of us to discuss and contemplate about that how our body-mind works is very surprising in a way because when we follow along our direction of pleasure and avoiding pain it no longer works after some time.
It has a limited supply of energy for such pleasure and gain and then it starts falling apart unless we work on ourselves and do the necessary to regain the vitality.
This is the working plan of the body-mind unit that provokes us to look at ourselves and our lives in a new way and to take the inspiring changes or was it possible in any other way?
About the Author :
Asim Choudhury is the creator and founder of “Awakening the Inner Sun within” to help people to transform their lives for good with various quantum healing modalities. His mission is to allow others to receive the love and proper education that will eradicate the victim persona to find their inner healer within to finally end the search and meeting their inner master. Website:www.blissofnewsun.net