Today, with all of the technical software available to make us look better, sound better, appear happier than we actually are…where is the real you?
We can come into our power when we are our authentic self. Finding a tribe who values our authenticity can be an interesting challenge these days. There are many avenues one can take to find like-minded people. Between social media platforms, clubs, church groups, political activities, hobbies and meet up events, there are numerous ways people can connect. The key for being “fearlessly authentic” is our ability to walk-in to those connections being unafraid to present ourselves honestly.
In order to be confident in who we truly are, we need to be “okay” with who we are! In fact, we might even say that being authentic is honoring our connection to our creator. Is it selfish to be authentic? Yes, but that is good. It may be seen as self-serving to focus on anything that causes us to feel good when there is suffering in the world. However, allowing ourselves to be honest, results in sharing a vulnerable and kind energy that people are drawn to. It invites others to trust us and be their authentic selves in return.
Being inauthentic constricts our energy and can literally cause illness. Continually putting forth a false impression of who we are reaffirms our belief that we are not enough…which is a literal toxin in our cells. Dr. Bruce Lipton speaks about this in his work “The Biology of Belief”. Below is a thought-provoking quote from him regarding the power of our thought focus.
“The function of the mind is to create coherence between our beliefs and the reality we experience. What that means is that your mind will adjust the body’s biology and behavior to fit with your beliefs. If you’ve been told you’ll die in six months and your mind believes it, you most likely will die in six months. That’s called the nocebo effect, the result of a negative thought, which is the opposite of the placebo effect, where healing is mediated by a positive thought.” - Dr. Bruce Lipton
How do we know when we are being our authentic self?
* It feels good.
* People reflect back authenticity.
* We aren’t worried what others think about how we look or what we say.
* We encourage others to be graciously unavailable to judgment.
* We share stories freely and listen with genuine interest and empathy.
* We are consciously in the moment.
* We embrace our unique connection to what we bring to the world and see and appreciate the same in others.
What are the fear motivators that keep people in a state of inauthenticity? Ultimately, these flow from I AM statements: I AM not pretty, smart, talented, wealthy, influential enough to belong in this group, circumstance, relationship, business, family, etc.
Our belief system is an inside job and regulating it is completely up to us. No one else can force us to think, feel or believe anything. Our first step is taking personal responsibility for the creation and shifting of that energy.
Ways we can shift self-inflicted negative & judgmental energy:
* Be mindful of how we feel.
* What thought were we having right before that feeling emerged?
* Breathe deeply, slowly and allow a new thought, based in kindness and empathy.
* Check-in with our feelings again.
* Is our energy focused in our heart or in our head?
* Connect the two with loving intention.
* Move forward with the new belief: I AM Enough!
Let’s face it, no one really wants to hang out with people who are fake. People are hungry for authenticity and for the opportunity to be authentic themselves. True friendships, family relationships, business connections and mentoring opportunities all benefit from fearless authenticity by everyone involved. It’s up to us to fearlessly allow our authentic selves to be seen!
About the Authors: Matrix Productions is a multi-media company represented by partners Beth Donnelly and Dagny Grant. Co-authors of the internationally Best-Selling Children's book series "Journey of Joy", they share mind, body and spirit connections, teaching mindfulness and I AM principles. Their publication of books, and “Echoes of the Soul” multi-media projects, produce tools that shape the thoughts and hearts of like-minded people. Find them at http://bit.do/MatrixMedia and http://bit.do/FaceBookMatrix!