Is it possible to permanently change a troublesome, upsetting memory by simply altering its design? Can you wipeout the effects of an angry or hurtful situation of the past by simply making different or revised those events that your memory plays and continuously replays in your mind?
Many of us have encountered events that caused us to feel guilty, shamed, wronged, abused or just inadequate in some way. Those distressing times may be from as long ago as early childhood when we were made to feel we were bad or stupid.
It is equally likely that the unhappy past memories could be just a few months or years ago when as adults we felt helpless, angry or hurt. Whatever the cause of the bruised or upset feelings, the continual mental review and replay of them will never bring anything positive to our lives.
As humans our unfortunate tendency when dealing with a miserable memory is to allow it to grow and become more powerful, feeding it until it is more miserable with each time we review it. Angry words become angrier. Hurts are more painful and deliberate. In other words black clouds of emotion are bigger and more ominous.
Here is my suggestion: regardless of the emotion, anger, fear, guilt or depression over events that you feel you cannot change, redesign those events now! Remember it is not happening now. It is the past. You can and must change any miserable defeating memory of the past in order to go forward creating a fulfilling life for yourself.
Realize that if the circumstance were happening today with your increased experience you would react in a much more proactive effective way than you did before. So begin now to work with that recurring memory to make it into a positive experience as much as you can. Use your imagination every time the memory haunts you to turn it to your advantage.
While you cannot wipe the memory out, you can adjust it. Realize that you are not asking the people involved to do anything at all. You are not wanting to actually change them or their attitudes. You are not taking any action with them directly. You simply are taking the burden off yourself by deciding to see yourself and those people, situations and actions differently as compared with the way they currently appear in your troubled memory.
The only thing you need do is recreate the event by changing it with your imagination into a welcome learning occasion, a chance to gain needed wisdom. Solely in your own mind adjust the troublesome circumstances and all those actions of yourself and the people involved.
If you miss-spoke, see yourself saying the right thing in the right way. If you allowed yourself to be berated or abused, imagine that you acted courageously, stood up for yourself and moved away from the persons involved. Make whatever changes to that memory that leave you feeling proud of yourself, your words, your actions.
This redesigning will not take effect immediately but if you persist in time the memory will make you smile instead of crying. When previously you may have been angry, you will begin seeing yourself peaceful and in control.
When we allow troublesome memories to intrude on our present and future we are crippling our lives. Decide today to heal your view of the past so that your future can stand straight and tall. Give yourself the gift of courage and confidence so at this time you gain energy to push forward with ease and much needed self-esteem.
In circumstances where things seem just too painful to be worked with on your own, I am able to help you with hypnosis. When you are in that calm and relaxed hypnotic state it is easier to gain the cooperation of your subconscious mind to allow the needed changes.
Using hypnosis I give you the memory changing ideas that you desire. With hypnosis the changes which are created have a greater long term effect. The result is much happier memory recall which in turn causes your present feelings and general mood to be more pleasant and definitely more uplifted and useful.
Allowing yourself the freedom of happier memories is a gift you deserve. Seeing your life path joyously carrying you forward, guided by your own light heart, will offer you an entirely new range of productive choices and options.