We're not trees - we can move!
If we don’t like where we are – we can change it!
Just coming out of a holiday season can leave us somehow flat and unmotivated. When we look back at what we did before, and plan for our future, the inclination is to consider all the work we have to do... all the changes we have to make ... all the relationships we have to repair and all the compromises we have to face. No wonder we’re not motivated and energised to get back into the swing of things!!
Maybe this is the time we start looking for the good stuff. The potential we have in ourselves and in our lives. Children celebrate who they are, every day. The laugh without restraint, they cry without embarrassment, they move to music, enjoy the wet of rain, celebrate the heat of sun, glory in the chill of snow. What happened to us? How did we grow out of celebrating each moment of our life? How did we come to need ‘motivating’ to live fully and joyfully?
I'm suggesting it's time to re-kindle that joy. Through my work with thousands of people over the years, I've found ths process works well. Here ya go - take this moment to celebrate who and how you are. To uncover and bring the best part of you to achieve your goals and share your light.
1. Before we change anything about ourselves, we need to know exactly where we are - right now. Where we are stuck - in detail. I find it more effective to use pen and paper to write these lists rather than the computer or tablet.
To be most effective, the lists are made under different headings, i.e. I’m stuck physically here, I'm stuck intellectually here, I’m stuck emotionally here.
I’m stuck spiritually here, and so on, and include any other heading that works for you... relationships, family career, lifeskills. .Then underneath each heading, jot down your feelings and thoughts about each one. It's amazing how clarifying just these lists can be!
2. Take another sheet of paper and divide it down the middle. One side at the top, write Plus Energy, on the other side write Minus Energy. Underneath each side make a list of all the people you come in contact with on a regular basis who add to your energy, and who take energy from you.
3. This can be the hardest part, but it's worth the effort. Make a list of the things you do, or say to yourself, which give you energy, and which deplete your energy. For instance, do you really need to see the 11 p.m. news? Do you munch on candy or drink more than a glass of wine each evening, leaving you to feel draggy in the morning? What do you say to yourself and feel when you do your workout, and when you don't?
4. Next sheet of paper. List the numbers, 1-52 one line for each, right underneath each other 1-52 When that's done, next to each number, write down one small thing that you cancommit to do each week to move the Minus Energy item over to the Plus side.
For instance, if you have a friend who, although is seemingly a very nice and kind person, somehow always makes you feel ‘less than’ after you’ve seen her or him, then decide what you’re going to do about this. You might not want to give up the friendship totally, but instead of meeting for dinner, maybe you meet for a movie, and there’s less time for toxic talk. One small conscious change a week, deciding to make a small change can totally change the way we interact with life and allow joy to return.
5. Using the fantastic power of the subconscious mind to make changes, allows us to re-program the 'blueprint' of habits and self talk that no longer serves us well. Meditation or self-hypnosis allows access to this valuable resource for change.
Find a quiet time and space - you'll need to be somewhere quiet, with no interruptions for about 5 - 10 minutes.
Relax in a comfy chair, close your eyes and begin to follow your breathing, counting from 1 - 20 as you follow each outbreath allow your body to relax starting with the top of your head and moving down to your toes. Don't worry about it being perfect -- just allow -- and follow your breath.
At the number 20 imagine yourself in a place where you feel safe and joyful. A beach? a garden? A favourite chair at home? Whatever works for you.
While there, visualise you being the best you can be with the changes you have chosen to make for yourself. Watch yourself in that space, notice how good you look, how you move when you're feeling your best.
Feel the smile inside
Bring yourself gently back to full awareness by counting from 10 - 1. Enjoy!
By the way, it doesn't have to be perfect - there's no wrong way of doing this. You can now use self-hypnosis to invent the life you want - a life of joy, peace, accomplishment and healthy relationships
Finally, think about where you're going to put the 52-week promise sheet. Somewhere where it will be seen every day. One small change at a time. It will be a reminder to celebrate life, your time on this planet, and the magnificent human being that you are!
Georgina Cannon is an author, regression therapist, coach, relationship counselor. and lecturer at the University of Toronto. Her fourth book, The Third Circle Protocol - How to relate to yourself and others in a healthy, vibrant evolving way. Always and All-ways, published by Findhorn Press, is now available in major bookstores and Amazon.com
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