Dialing It Down, Turning Off The Empath's Connection
Is it possible for empaths to dial down their connection with others, or to turn it off completely? Empaths connect with the energy/emotions of others. Sometimes that is quite the challenge. Feeling the physical and emotional pain of others as if it were your own becomes a burden. It is necessary for your own health and wellbeing to dial it down as far as you can in times of overwhelm, and perhaps turn it off. Consider the following example shared by a fellow empath who worked as a paramedic.
"I feel the pain including the intensity of the pain either at the location or in close proximity to that location on and in my own body where the patient was experiencing the pain (mirror synethesia). Usually when I was working in the emergency rooms at the end of my shift, I was usually exhausted physically and mentally. I can recall one instance one morning out of the clear blue when I suggested to a co-worker that she get tested to see if she was pregnant or not, because I knew she was, she had told me she had not even had sex in over 2 months, how could she be pregnant? She, being unmarried at the time, and not even actively dating could not be pregnant. The next day she informed me she was in fact pregnant, and she was about 2 1/2 months along! In that situation, I felt a full sensation in my stomach, and a thumping sensation, like a baby that kicks inside the mother's womb."
Obviously this individual is extremely sensitive and a well developed empath. He is also a "clair". Clairsentience is clear feeling, so you might understand how this may evolve from being a empath. There is another clair involved here, claircognizance or clear knowing. Energetically he connects, feels and then knows. Consider the effects of that. He suffers the symptoms as his own. Then he is able to use his clear knowing to help. Sounds like quite the gifts, but what if the afflicted is a relation?
"My very good friend has MS, I cannot be around her because I feel her pain and discomforts as well. When I speak to her on the phone, I can tell she is having a good day or a bad one, because I still get her pains and her feelings. Two of my brothers have Muscular Dystrophy, same thing there, I cannot speak for a very long time on the phone with them, because I feel their pain, and weaknesses as well, in both cases, I am physically and mentally exhausted after speaking to them in the phone. I have to stay away from shopping malls, fairs, anywhere there is going to be a large amount of people, because I get so many mixed feelings, pains, you name it!"
How do you dial it down? Can you disconnect and turn empathic ability off? The key to dialing it down is:
What about off? If the situation isn't recalling an emotional wounding, (emotional wound that you've experienced which is simular to the person you are empathing) then the above steps should disconnect and effectively turn it off. It doesn't stay off forever, when the situation is released you are flowing once more. That's a good thing, it is how you are wired and are meant to experience life. The goal is to have actionable steps that help you dial it down in times of overwhelm. When you are faced with family members who are sick or dying, please know that situation is difficult period. The fact you're an empath compounds it. You must limit the time spent with them, and if you use the techniques above you should be more comfortable in that situation.
Learn to accept and embrace all of who you are. The empath part is only one aspect of your whole, yet without mastery it becomes unmanageable and overshadows the rest of your beauty. It can take away from the fullness of your life experience, because you censor your actions, where you go, what you do... Take control, the world needs you fully engaged and shining your light.
Lynn Zambrano advises and trains empaths all over the world to use their gifts to change their lives and the lives of others. You CAN feel better.
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