DISINGENUOUSNESS AND ITS DISCONTENTS
Being disingenuous has become a way of life, if we are not careful- even among those of us who choose to cultivate honesty and self-awareness. In a busy culture, with lots of demands and people to please, it is often easier to lack candor and sincerity in the moment- especially to make the most fleeting but unpleasant moments disappear; the moments that are near impossible to avoid frequently corner us into a position of disingenuousness. In this stance, we often play a part in any life drama that forces us to kick back into a place that lacks consciousness. Being disingenuous is a common defense for us; one in which many of us claim as the lesser of two evils. But to lack sincerity even in the small moments inevitably has a cumulative effect- for many it is depression, it is anxiety, it can even be a seething sense of loneliness that surfaces as a consequence of living in this manner day in and day out.
If we can pierce through all that is layered, and determine the purest truth in each moment, a different life over time will be lived that one can feel differently about in retrospect. To live with authenticity is courage. To not want to hurt someone's feelings may be a true intention, but its seedling plants something that renders an unanticipated crop. It displays other core truths that have been hidden for a long time. This is the truth of cumulative growth of anything- the cumulative growth of what is unsaid or not done.
Society continues to breed the individuals that smile when they are crying on this inside, the folks that want to say one thing to someone directly, but wind up gossiping the real sentiment to everyone else, for people to stay at jobs that make them miserable each day because they are "supposed" to feel happy that they are employed at all. Society has even cultivated "at least the glass is half full," perspective when many are unhappy they don't have a full glass of their own. It is simply better to acknowledge the simple truth because while we are constantly trying to hold negativity at bay, the truths we tend to sweep under a rug on a daily basis will rear its head in amplified form and in the most unhealthy passive aggressive manner-- one that leaves us worse off than the unpleasantness we are always trying to avoid.
2015 © Shreya Mandal
Comments are closed for this Articles