By Paul Nijar
Have you ever looked at someone and thought to yourself, “Man that guy could really use a good butt kicking!” Now think back to the emotions you felt toward that individual.
What did they mean?
“It meant I wanted to judo chop that guys face!”
Our emotions behind those thoughts come from anger and hope to witness their demise in the near future, typically. However, despite our ill intentions, that individual benefits from the change in their outlook.
“Ya! That’s what I mean, when I said that guy could use a good butt kicking.”
Violence isn’t needed. What I’m saying is that shift of one’s mental frame after having experienced something so shocking does us a great service. When we get our way for a period of time we begin to act like a spoilt child. Think of the attitude of a person who never hears “no,” they operate with such inflated egos.
The #1 Doctor’s recommended choice for the ego is REJECTION.
Rejection is a very difficult thing to go through, especially for a guy. We have such a male-bravado that we cannot allow the impression of our masculinity to be shot down by rejection. A man will act tough on the surface, all confident and like nothing bothers them, but trust me, rejection is a shot of whisky that they don’t take without a sour face.
REJECTION brings such a great awakening.
The ego will create walls over our heart. It keeps us in the mind. The ego resides in the mind. As strong as it may seem, it is actually very weak. Think about how horrible you feel when you feel rejected. You feel so insulted. But this is necessary to bring awareness back into the heart.
“That dame just slapped me right off my high chair! and it was the best thing that ever happened to me. I’m in love!”
We become so inflated from our egos. This does such a disservice to us and the people around us. Each time we are put in our place by someone or some event, it strips away a layer of the ego. The more layers that become stripped, the closer we become to heart awareness.
“I don’t care what people think of me, as long as I get what I want!”
The ego creates a divide among us all. Just think how unpleasant it is to be around someone with a big ego. The individual is all about “I.” Their focus is on themselves. Typically, they get what they want as people can’t stand to be around them. They end up alone. When we “Lay the Smackdown” on the ego, they become humbled and shift closer to heart consciousness.
In the heart not the mind.
When we return our awareness to our heart, we become awakened to the unity within us all. We are all one. The mind and ego will tell us otherwise. Through the heart awakening, we become one with ourselves and each other.
No more drama.
The ego is like an individual who walks on stilts. They are tall and stand out, but they have a very weak foundation. They see individuality and separation. There’s more strength in numbers. Through the heart we understand the power of our existence through one universal energy. We are that energy!
The blessing is that rejection is inevitable. We all experience it in different intensities. Who cares! Just understand that it’s a necessary method in shifting from the mind to the heart. The resistance we carry toward rejection doesn’t facilitate the lessons we are meant to take from it.
I’m going to leave you with a single word that leads you to your awakening, “NO!”
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