Sexuality of elderly parents
Still a taboo
Following the publication of the last Serience Papers, a symposium was organized June 17, 2004 in Paris.
Many specialists in the world of sexuality have succeeded, exchange workshops enabled participants to enrich their reflections.
Professor Louis Ploton says: pleasure goes wrong in a geriatric. Take pleasure is resented by others, especially when the subject is very old. This love is the object of scandal.
Or count on others is THE driving force of life.
Opening the prospect of meeting a living!
Maybe it's the definition of successful aging: the possible opening!
This little fragile flame: the freedom to dream, believe, love
Freedom to love, to reach the pleasure including the very elderly remains a taboo. The sexuality of old remains hidden. It is judged negatively, ugly, dirty, unseemly.
Professor of Psychiatry George Abraham and Gynaecologist Andrologist Syvain Mimoun attempted to reconcile two entities parts: the vieillissment and sexuality.
The elderly person is released from thousands of obligation (reproduction, performance ...).
She lives in the present, plans are short or medium term.
Until the end, his body works sexually differently to different pace than when she was younger, but find pleasure, exchange, give love is always possible.
According to George Abraham libido libido remains connected to vital, ever-present.
And for the first time in his life, the person becomes the owner of his body, he no longer has to answer for others, it is hers entirely.
It sometimes becomes ubiquitous (hypochondria).
Medication, advice can be given to better understand the evolution and body adapt to continue uen sex life.
The imaginary, the dream, access to the pleasure if only by the memory of happy moments remain until the end. The happiness to share his dreams, share with a loved one is profound.
Sublime moments, imagining remains intense moments of pleasure
The body functions, head and sublime dream
Healthy, a person continues to have normal sexual activity, provided they accept that downturns are the same as those that are accepted for other activities (we can not run fast ...).
Moreover, it is best to avoid prolonged periods of sexual life. The recovery is more difficult (fears, anxieties, fears ...). Everyone will have to listen and make a small step toward each other to start.
Hormone replacement therapy around and after menopause can prevent hot flashes, stress and vaginal dryness.
If indicaton-cons, local treatment may be prescribed.
But again: the function creates the organ. An adaptation to the new pace of climb is fun respected.
The decline of male hormones may exist (hypo androgenicity), fear of an erection less vigorous is often expressed.
When the teenager could be operational within 10 seconds, the adult-old will be ready in 3-4 minutes.
You just know it!
The subtle play of words, tenderness, touch, trade, adapting to each other is the solution.
The only recipe is: take into account the other, and at any age!
This perspective opens up a lot of hope for moments of happiness, fun, laugh, dance ...
Able to consider the sexuality of older means being clear about his own!
Charlotte Memin, psychologist, pulls no punches.
For her every adult individual, major, is free. The children will NEVER be the parents of their parents ... although nothing prevents trade accomplices ...
Anyone is free to love at any age, in compliance with the conventions (in the privacy of his room, not in public), the charter of the dependent elderly person recalls of 1995.
But talk, exchange, because the taboo is still real in the mind:
taboo sex short
the fact that the new person loved by her elderly parent or celelui never replace the one that left (e), deceased (e)
denial of a sexual life short for elderly
the fact that subconsciously generation must leave for the other to flourish
Get to know yourself, analyze its relationship to sexuality, talking in his family seem to be important avenues for working on this theme.
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