Basic rule of life: It’s all about energy and relationships are a major source of energy exchange. Relationships can either feed our power or drain our power. There’s rarely a middle ground.
Who would you guess are the biggest energy drains in your life?
If you said, “all of the above” you’re right. And unless you are living in the Himalayas, alone, you’re not likely to escape the relationship dance that we engage in daily.
Before we go any further know that we draw all relationships to us. Our relationships can be fulfilling or devastating experiences and yet good or bad, they all have the potential to teach us something about ourselves.
Most of us will at one time or another encounter people who seem to suck the life force right out of us, leaving us dazed, angry, tired or exhausted. Another name for these people would be “Emotional Vampires.”
Different Shapes and Sizes
The Narcissist and Controller are similar because the common theme is me, me and more me. It’s all about their lives or how you should run yours! In “conversation” with them (and I use that term loosely) it’s really a running monologue of their wins and (very few) losses in life or what you need to do to straighten out yours.
Victim/Martyr/Drama Queen; "Poor me” is the usual unstated but the “read between the lines” message you hear from this combo. Nothing EVER goes right for them and they never act on any good advice offered to them. But they keep coming back for more and more of your help over and over again.
Let me tell you this; an Emotional Vampire goes right for your jugular by pressing your most sensitive buttons which leaves you in a weakened state and making you an easy target to drain emotionally.
They can do it overtly or covertly. A covert Vampire will say something like this, “my goodness dear, are you stressed, because I noticed you’ve put on a little weight.” “Bazinga” as Sheldon from Big Bang theory would say.
In any case, most of us struggle to respond because we’re trying to figure out what the hell just happened. We just know we feel crappy, maybe a little dazed and probably weak.
Plan of Action
Remember, whatever the outcome, it’s all good because it’s all a learning and growing experience. Live Miraculously!
Michele Landers is a Board Certified Life Purpose Coach, Hypnotherapist, Professional Numerologist and the author of two books: “the Tao of Numbers” and “The Year of Living Miraculously.” Michele has assisted clients nationwide to gain clarity and direction in their lives. Michele was a recurring coach on Fox/ WFLX “Eye on South Florida” with Shannon Cake. Reach Michele at michelelanders.com