Cultivating empathy is the antidote to being judgmental, which is a big plus in creating great partnerships. Replacing impatience, irritation judgment, with curiosity, to stretch into their world and to look at issues through their eyes, works like a charm. The following are fourteen ideas to consider if you are committed to becoming a more empathic person and growing a great relationship where the bond becomes more secure.
Some people are under the false impression that empathy is something that you either have or you don’t. They don't understand that empathy can be learned. Of course, some people are naturally more empathic than others, but there is huge room for development if there is motivation to do so. There are many good reasons to commit to the practice of becoming more empathic; one of the most important one being that cultivating empathy is the antidote to being judgmental.
If you are truly motivated to have deep closeness with your partner, you have to understand them. A conscious effort can be made to deepen that understanding, and one of the best ways to go about it is to ask penetrating questions. Through your sincere desire to understand their perspective, which may be quite different from your own, you can become closer. Replacing impatience, irritation judgment, with curiosity works like a charm. Stretch into their world; look at issues through their eyes. Factor in their history that has influenced their views to appreciate their style of being in the world.
Here are some practices for cultivating empathy:
When we cultivate empathy that part of us that tends to be judgmental diminishes and that shift in attitude is immediately sense by others. Our accepting and compassionate attitude has a strong impact on the relationship. They feel our acceptance and understanding which assists them to accept their own experience and to accept themselves in general. In the process, the bond in the relationship becomes more secure.
Linda Bloom L.C.S.W. has served as psychotherapist and seminar leader practicing relationship counseling almost forty years. Check out her OMTimes Bio.
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