Expectations are blades that can cut the deepest wounds in our lives. Left unchecked, expectation often moves synchronous with what we desire. In other words, when we want something and get it, we have to be very careful not to take it for granted or expect it will happen again. What was the outcome of a failed expectation? From the dad that expects his wife to have a warm dinner for him every night, to the man that expects financial success, to the woman that expects her boyfriend to change..what is the result of these failed expectations? Pain? And how do we deal with pain? Do we go in a rage? Do we become completely erratic and seek to impose hurt on the people we care about? Do we say things we regret? Do we retract inwards blame ourselves and fall into depression?
I think our animalistic natures trickle down into our thoughts. I believe the wolf that is physically cornered and fights to survive is very much the same movement when we have cornered ourselves mentally, and fight others (even those we love) to get out of that corner. We feel trapped and use passiveness or aggression to move ourselves from that... Many times afterwards, there is regret. Aggressors feel extreme guilt and passiveness leads to feeling used and mistreated. So my question to all of those that don't want to do this over and over again, is why look at your anger when you can cut to the root by seeing the expectations, the corners that you have laid out in your mind...the same ones that you get trapped behind. Until that is looked at, I think the cycle will only shift and change into various forms of the same thing.