So you’re trying the online dating thing and not having much success? Well, you could attribute that to the fact that online dating is a saturated market for the wrong people. Yes, the wrong people. Not you, of course; the people who you happen to come across. The type of people you wouldn’t normally give the time of day outside of the online dating arena. And yeah, it is an arena. It’s a bunch of people battling for the attentions of other members of the site. Mostly in the physical sense, so the desperation attempts are higher, the meat photos are more prevalent, and the lewd, sex talk is more often heard.
Nowadays, with religion and morals on the decline, you’re probably meeting people who think they are spiritual…but they’re not up to par for you, right? Most people like to think they’re spiritual because it means they have a rational excuse to not have any real religious faith in anything beyond saying that they’re a good person; and that’s what they say matters most right? Wrong!!
If so, then why isn’t that the basis for every religion out there? There are finer details to being a good person, aside from just saying it. First of all, you have to live it. Secondly, you have to be a great person, because good people are usually only good in their own eyes. Who determines if you’re a good person or not? Is it your own spirituality or is it via the eyes of others?
If you’re truly a spiritual person with respect, morals, love for fellow beings, and social boundaries then you really need a social platform where you can find and meet people like you. Not the meat market dating sites that show up first on Google searches...the ones who put commercial ads on TV. Most of the more common/popular (run-of-the-mill) online dating sites have taken a website, spruced it up magnificently to be presentable and then filled it up with a bunch of people who are the opposite.
Probably the two most popular ones (eHarmony and Match.com) are perfect examples of this. Great website and great interface with a huge database of members who are from every walk of life, every corner of the globe, and with so many different views on life that it makes it hard to connect with “real” people.
Then you have sites like ChristianMingle , MySpace, Facebook, and Craigslist Personals which are like pure meat markets. If you don’t believe me, ask around. I’ve personally been a member of all of the above sites and have seen it for myself. I’ve tested them all out with two or more profiles just to see what I could fish out of there. I tried different interests, differing photos, and various types of personal information. Yes, I lied…and also told the truth.
Here’s what I found:
The two more popular ones are filled with a bunch of fake people who lie on their profiles and/or have low self-esteem. I never met any quality women there who weren’t interested in me. They all seemed to be interested in me because of my photos or because of the amount of money I said I made.
The rest of them were pure meat markets. If I put a more sexually attractive photo of myself, I got hits from women of all types. They didn’t care about my weight, height, income, or anything except that I had a nice body and a handsome face. Sounds good, but it’s not what long-term relationships are made of.
During my single years, I would often talk with other single people at work and never heard any good stories about any of those sites except for Craigslist Personals. Here are some of the more memorable statements I heard.
· Christian Mingle: Guys used to crack jokes about the dating site and how it was filled with a bunch of promiscuous women; more so than the other sites.
· Facebook: If you want to hookup quickly, this is the place to go.
· Match.com: Once you find one, one or two dates and it’s all good.
· eHarmony: You better have some money for those high priced h***!
· Craigslist Personals: Once you wade through the pornography pictures, you might find a few good women, but they’re usually just girls who want to have some fun.
I personally was not just looking to have some fun. What I wanted was something long-term and substantial. I was trying to do something with my life and wanted a woman with the same morals, values, motivational drive, and at least more than just a decent shred of spirituality.
Then I found this website called Om Dating. At first I was thinking it would be the same type of deal, especially after seeing some of the same women in my regional area who I had seen on two of the other previous sites. But after spending a week or so on the site, I realized it was different. I made me start thinking that the women who had come to this site were here because they were also tired of the online dating game and wanted something other than a meat market.
After checking out their profiles on this site, I saw that they also had spiritual sides too. The difference here was the actual ability to detail more of it. The way this online dating site is structured makes it easy to speak about your religion, spirituality, eating habits, cosmic energies, etc. and it provides a forum where you can speak about these things without feeling like a fanatic because you have deeper spirituality than the majority of the people on the site. This is what Om Dating is all about. If you want to find a spiritual partner who will meet and exceed your expectations then, by any and all means, get off of the meat markets and join a dating site that is a qualified “meet” market. All you have to do is believe…because your soul mate is out there waiting for you.
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