One common trait all empaths share is continually feeling zapped and drained. When this happens the gut reaction is to crawl inside and shut out the world. Or emotionally eat a bunch of food midday to feel grounded and protected. But what if there was a better way to release all the excess “stuff?”
Being an empath means intuitively connecting to others through emotion. Empaths don’t just observe other people. They feel them as through they were going through those emotions themselves. Sometimes they are, and the feelings are just a little recessed, which is what makes being an empath so tricky. Being surrounded by negative people stirs up negative emotions, causing a highly empathic person to feel like they are carrying a ton of bricks. Absorbing the emotional energy of others is like a weight that needs to be released.
The best method for keep energy levels up is by using empathy in a smarter way and never picking those bricks up in the first place. How exactly? By observing, not absorbing.
Observe, don’t absorb.
Observation is a tiny shift in perspective. Information is still coming in. Connection is still there. But the energy gets observed and released. A great phrase is “That’s interesting.” When something is interesting, it is not yet judged as good or bad, right or wrong, positive or negative. Empathic people need people, and by observing they can still practice the same connection without the harmful effects of absorbing other’s emotions.
By observing, there’s no need to protect and bubble. Other people’s emotions get acknowledged in a healthy way. Being able to connect to others deeply is a profound gift for an empath. It’s when those external emotions get absorbed and internalized that the empath’s energy levels decrease. By practicing observation and acknowledgement, highly empathic people can continue to be the loving, compassionate people we need, without the draining, exhausting feeling of trying to fix everyone else’s problems.