How To Get Over A Breakup Quickly Like A Master Psychic
Recently, my boyfriend and I broke up after four years. It was one of the hardest breakups I've gone through in my 42 years. We had gone back and forth for the past couple of months until I officially ended things. I knew the process of moving forward would not be easy, but I felt I would be happier moving forward than staying in a dead-end relationship. I knew, too, that I had to quickly get my head right because I had people to help and children to take care of.
So what did I, a Master Psychic, do to help myself get over my break up quickly and effectively? Here are 10 things:
1. Forgiveness. In relationships, one partner may be guiltier than the other, but it takes two to tango. Most of the time there is a reason why your partner did what he or she did – or a reason why you did what you did. That's why I’ve come to believe that no one is wrong and no is right. Trying to figure out who's wrong or right is just mind-boggling. We can go back and forth with our partner, throwing their faults in their face while they bring up ours, but all it does in the end is cause more pain and confusion. Sometimes you just have to accept that it's over. People grow, and sometimes that means growing apart from the one you love. Growth is a natural part of life, and you can’t get mad that maybe you two grew up or woke up. That's why one of the best methods for getting over a breakup is just to forgive. Forgiveness is Godly and is sometimes the only way to move on, especially if you're seeking closure and can't get it. You must forgive yourself too. Forgive yourself for not being perfect. Forgive yourself for loving them the best you could even if they were not satisfied. Do not devalue yourself because someone makes you feel like you aren't good enough for them. You do not have to forget what someone did to you, but forgive them and I promise you will feel a whole lot better and be able to move on a whole lot faster.
2. Learning from YouTube, podcasts and audio books. This was one of the best things I could have done. I listened to these things while cleaning the house, walking, driving, taking the kids to the park and whenever I had time. I listened to all sorts of topics from breakups to self-empowerment to business and everything in between – but mainly break up stuff like “How To Get Over Your Ex” and “The No Contact Rule”. And although I'm a psychic who helps people get through breakups all the time and already knew what I had to do, it's good to hear the truth coming from someone else’s mouth. Hearing what I already knew confirmed that what I did was right. Listening to this recorded advice helped me most during this difficult time.
3. Talking to others. There is no better way to get things off your chest than to talk with a friend or a neutral person. If you leave your feelings all bottled up inside, you're just going to explode eventually. I have a few close friends whom I feel I can trust my life with – with whom I share my pain and joys and know it's not going to be spread all across the town. I don’t know what I would have done if I wasn't able to talk to someone about the pain I felt inside. In fact, I would like to thank my friends, my clients, my assistants and family for being there for me. Having a strong support system during your breakup is one of the most important things you can have. Just make sure the people you talk to are people you can trust and who aren't going to get sick of hearing you talk about the breakup over and over and over again. I'm lucky to have friends who are more than happy to listen to my story repeatedly and give me the good sage advice I need to move forward.
4. Exercising. I found this to be very therapeutic for me. Taking walks in nature by a lake, for example, and connecting with nature seemed to bring a sense of peace to my day. You have a greater appreciation for life when you can stop and smell the fresh air or the warm breeze kissing your cheeks. Working on yourself inside and out is one of the best ways to increase your serotonin, endorphins and dopamine levels. By increasing these levels, you can stabilize your mood. Plus, there is no better revenge than a nice, fit and toned body! I try to start each day with exercise because you must take care of yourself before you can take care of others.
5. Using natural herbs. When I know I am going to go through a tough time, I often take natural mood enhancers like St. John's Wort, L-theanine, 5-HTP or two of my favorite vitamins, Mood Formula by Vita Logic and OptiMind. I try to take these before the onset of problems to prepare me for the heartache I know is coming. If you follow the directions on the bottle and give yourself a couple weeks for them to kick in when possible, you will be better able to handle any heartbreak like a champion.
6. Listening to music. Listening to empowering breakup songs like Beyonce's “Lemonade” album helped me out a surprising amount during my breakup. It gave me the jolt I needed to get through my day and say “forget him”. I would often listen to these songs during my walks in the park or on the treadmill. There are many other empowering breakup songs out there and I advise you to do a search and see which one gives you the greatest strength. Caution: I do not suggest that you listen to any sad songs during the time of a breakup because it will only make things worse.
7. Helping others. I find that helping others through their difficult times helps me a lot. I can get through a breakup all the more easily when I know I can make someone stronger or empower them. I also realize sometimes that my life is not as bad as I think. There is always someone worse off than me that I can help during a difficult time. I'm fortunate that I'm in the business of helping others, but perhaps if you're going through a similar situation, volunteering at your local shelter or helping the old woman across the street with her bags will help you feel better about yourself. I know it makes me feel amazing being able to put a smile on the face of someone who is going through a tougher time than me
8. Journaling. Writing helps me a lot. It's like therapy for me. In fact, writing this article is helping me a lot. So does writing in my journal. Letting my secret feelings out on the page and being able to go back and see what was on my mind at a particular time is therapeutic. I also started a voice diary at the suggestion of my cousin. He told me he video records himself when he is going through a breakup, then he looks back on his recordings and often laughs at himself for being so emotional at that particular time. Well, this last time I did something like that. I recorded my thoughts into my vocal diary and then went back to the beginning of my breakup and listened to the pain I had in my voice when the break up first happened. To hear myself now – all energetic, optimistic and upbeat – compared to then was a real eye-opener that has really helped.
9. Working on a hobby. I noticed that toward the end of my relationship, I stopped doing the stuff I loved like songwriting, photography and more. So to help me get my brain off my ex, I went back to doing the things I always loved doing and am even considering starting a new hobby. Keeping your mind busy during hard times and doing something you feel is rewarding is a great way to help yourself through a breakup. If there was something you put to the side for the sake of your relationship or something new you want to try, there is no better time than now. The rewards of your completed projects will surely make your heart sing.
10. Getting to bed early. I think one of the hardest things for me during this breakup was getting to sleep. I was so used to having him there by my side in the night that waking up without him there was somewhat traumatic. Every night at a particular time, I would wake up, reach to my right and he wasn't there. So I decided to take a little over-the-counter pill to help me sleep: melatonin or diphenhydramine. This helped me get through the night, and the next day I always woke up a little bit stronger than the previous day and felt refreshed. I do not suggest popping pills all the time, but if you're having trouble sleeping through the night, don’t be scared to get a little help from your local pharmacy. Sleep is vital to life, and if you aren't getting proper rest this will just make you miserable through your day. Whether you take something to help you sleep or not, there are some great teas out there to help you sleep. A well-rested mind, body and soul will help you get through your most difficult times.
I hope these tips help you as much as they have helped me. By following these tips, I was able to get over my breakup in a matter of weeks rather than a matter of months. How you handle a breakup depends on the situation and the person, of course. But once you've found a method that works for you, stick with it because breakups are never easy, not even for a Master Psychic like me.
Have you gone through a breakup? What were some of the methods you've used to help you get over it?
I will be hosting a webinar on this topic today at 02/26/17 6:00 PM EST. Please RSVP your spot in VIP Area if you would like to join the discussion and maybe offer some advice to others who may be going through a breakup too. Come share your story, and I look forward to speaking with you.
Master Psychic Rachel
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