By Paul Nijar
Remember that time when you were so consumed by your lover that you couldn’t see beyond them? How about when you kissed them you wouldn’t want to separate your lips from there’s because their touch sent shockwaves through your entire being?
What happened to all that? What’s changed?
When we come into a new relationship everything is perfect. We become so infatuated with our partner to such a degree that love vibrates through all our cells. Every struggle or discomfort we experienced before, is now manageable. This is known as the “honeymoon stage.”
When the honeymoon hits your eye like a big pizza pie, that’s amore!
But something changes through the course of the next couple months that burns the crust of that pizza. While we were once consumed with love, we may now find ourselves empty. “What the heck!!?”
Our desires to be with our partners all the time has faded. We no longer suffer through short moments away from one another. Could this be the beginning of the end? Before you get your undies in a knot, let me tell you that this doesn’t have to be the end of your relationship.
Here’s the energetic breakdown of what you may have missed.
In the honeymoon phase, both partners were devout. They couldn’t be in the presence of one another without making some sort of physical contact. This was the time where our heart was wide open. All our senses, through love, were amplified. We were unconsciously attuning ourselves with our spiritual energies.
Things changed when we became wrapped up in our mundane obligations in life. The awareness of our energy and the energy of our partner has shifted or been diverted by something else. As this occurs, our heart gathers layers of other energetic blockages, dulling our energetic sensitivity toward one another. At this time, we revert to associating all our information through our limited 5 senses.
The relationship will not stand the test of the time when relying only on the 5 senses. Just as we get excited holding hands, we become gratified by the physical touch, but when we let go, so too is the connection through the contact.
You can look but you can’t touch.
When you are apart from your partner, you do not have the luxury of touching and seeing them when you want. This may lead to frustration and animosity because we may lay blame on our partners for not putting in efforts toward seeing each other. These emotions then create layers on top of the heart, creating a wedge in the relationship.
“I need help! I’ve got a wedgie in the relationship that needs to be picked.”
The wedgie can only be picked by connecting with your partner energetically and spiritually again, as you did in the honeymoon phase. When this is established once again, the distance apart has no damaging effect to the relationship; the love can be felt beyond distance and touch.
This is the relationship that many people desire. Despite our disbelief, we can all have this. These relationships are not reserved for songs, movies, poems and romance novels. People in disbelief see this as being no more real than Santa Clause.
“There’s over 7 billion people on the planet, I’ll just find someone else!”
This type of mentality will keep the individual jumping around trying to sort through those billions of people. After a while the treasure hunt becomes tiring.
Eternal Love for dummies:
Visualize a loop that connects from your heart to theirs. When you feel the energetic pull at your heart, the connection has been made and it feels like a wave of energy. Now visualize the energy rising from the base of the spine to the top of the head. As this is practised you will be able to feel your partner’s energy flowing through you whether they are in front of you or not.
With practise the honeymoon stage is no longer a stage. The love connection grows stronger each day. This will remove layers of energetic blockages from the heart allowing you to solidify a connection with your lover beyond the 5 senses.
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