How can we set attainable goals when we've not yet experienced success?
While we might hope that we can simply "power through" with whatever goal we have in mind, it is helpful to know what kind of results are realistic when facing new, uncertain situations since some of the things we'd most like to experience can feel the most out of reach.
Since any kind of goal is theoretically possible, how can we tell which goals are realistic? While most of us deem some kinds of instantaneous transformation to be more believable than others--tending to expect smaller "miracles," while considering larger manifestations to be less possible--the truth is that Nature operates with discontinuous 'jumps' occurring on a regular basis, as quantum biologists are beginning to realize.
Listen to Many Minds
Instead of being of just one mind, each and every one of us is a multitude. For example, each of our minds includes numerous different overlapping memory systems, though we are seldom aware of just how we reconstruct our memories of specific events each time we recall them. Our many minds establish a naturally redundant and highly resilient system that we can trust even when "life happens," and things occasionally go "wrong."
As David Eagleman writes in Incognito: The Secret Lives of the Brain,
"Almost the entirety of what happens in your mental life is not under your conscious control, and the truth is that it's better this way. Consciousness can take all the credit it wants, but it is best left at the sidelines for most for the decision making that cranks along in your brain."
Our conscious mind is like the tip of an iceberg, with the vast majority of what goes on happening below what we can readily observe. Without support from our subconscious believing something to be possible, we can waste energy fighting inner battles that result in outer signs of getting stuck, delayed, or diverted. When we observe thoughts and feelings conflicting with our goals, we can gain insights into how to be more open-minded to new possibilities, as we revise our goals as need be to best ensure our success.
With regard to setting goals, best success comes from focusing attention on asking for what is truly best for on all levels of our being--not just what we think is best from our heads. Most of us do not go through life feeling fully aligned with a sense of one harmoniously focused intention, and instead are accustomed to feeling inharmonious conflicting desires as "normal" in our daily lives--yet happiness and life satisfaction come from experiencing harmonious alignment with all levels of awareness.
Examples of goals that look great to our heads, but might not feel doable to our hearts and guts could include things like: losing thirty pounds, finding a wonderful romantic partner, or starting a new business. There's a degree of ongoing commitment to many goals, which can mean our internal areas of conflicting beliefs can wreak havoc if left to their own devices. Rather than unexpectedly experiencing worries, doubts, misgivings and fears, we can learn to thrive by listening to many levels of awareness (such as head, heart, and gut), while nurturing belief in positive possibilities associated with realities we'd most like to experience. Each of these levels of awareness has important information that can be most helpful, when we go through the various carrier emotions to tune in the information being conveyed.
Emotions of love, compassion, and enthusiasm are capable of transforming other emotional energies levels where we can more easily imagine how good things can get, without fixating on what might go wrong. Listening to levels of consciousness with these high emotional energies can thus help ensure we're more likely to experience success, without succumbing to doubts, worries, and fears.
Recall Winning Situations from the Past
Peak results and experiences occur when we're "in the zone," free from various forms of stress and tension in our bodies, minds, and spirit that we sometimes become accustomed to feeling. Top athletes know the importance of experiencing being "in the zone," because optimal peak performance is associated with achieving and maintaining a state of harmoniously aligned awareness. Remembering times when we've been "in the zone," can be helpful to remind us of how good it feels when our heads, hearts, and guts are aligned with one goal in mind, providing a sense of moving through life experiences with effortless ease.
When preparing for success, it helps to remember success of any related experiences we can feel emotionally vested in. The stories we tell ourselves and others greatly influence our beliefs, since our subconscious listens to everything we say and think, and takes a great deal of it very literally. Just as researchers last year were stunned to discover the extraordinary positive effects of placebo sleep, in which people felt and performed better when they believed they slept well, even when they hadn't--our bodies are much more willing and able to cooperate with our minds than most of us have ever realized.
We can help ensure future success by finding aspects of wins from the past that are related in some way to the reality we are now envisioning, while simultaneously experiencing that flow state of "in the zone" feeling. Telling ourselves such positive statements as, "Everything is working out perfectly" can do wonders!
Set Goals that Match Envisioned Future Success
Kathmandu's "Kung Fu Nuns" sprang into action after an earthquake i... even while the first earthquake tremors rocked and broke the walls, thanks to years of body-mind-spirit conditioning, dodging pieces of falling wall and escaping, despite never having practiced such an exercise before. One of the reasons martial arts masters train as regularly and heavily as they do has to do with conditioning their minds to becoming aware that their physical bodies often do extraordinary activities, while enhancing the smooth coordination between mental thoughts and physical actions. The subconscious thus becomes conditioned to be more flexible and agreeable when urged forward by the conscious mind, able to do first envision and then do extraordinary things for the first time, regardless of any prior specific expertise in those areas.
We can develop mind-body-spirit agility by considering what reality we'd like to experience in the future, while recalling joy and gratitude of the past. Imagine our future selves feeling overwhelmed with thankful happiness as we look back at this very moment. Feeling such waves of appreciation in connection to seeing ourselves doing whatever needs to be done, weaving a thread from an optimal future possibility through the web of all possibilities to this moment, now.
Check Gut Feelings
After setting goals that match envisioned future success, we can take a check-point and listen to subconscious gut feelings. When we notice we are feeling relaxed, happy and expansive about our goals as we now envisioning them, terrific! Our goals are in place. If we sense any tension whatsoever, such as tightness or queasy feelings, it's time to listen one more time, going through the above steps once again. Setting quantum jumping goals is a process, which always goes back to listening to our many levels of ourselves, getting ourselves into as much inner alignment as possible, and asking an integrating question such as, "How good can it get?"
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