How to Survive the Death of a Loved One.
No one gets through this life without having to part with a loved one by way of the transition called death. We are both human beings and spiritual beings. When the human body has ceased functioning for whatever reason, natural causes or otherwise, our spiritual being lives on. While mediums have the ability to receive impressions from those who have crossed over to the spirit world, I can tell you firsthand that mediums still grieve. Moreover, because of our gift, mediums are highly sensitive people which is both a blessing (for our work) and a curse because mediums feel deeply and sense so much of what is going on in our immediate environment and in the world at large.
We are all accustomed to relating to people in the physical world, when they are no longer in our lives physically there is a significant adjustment that occurs. Some people bounce back from this change better than others. Because of early tragic experiences with death, change of this nature is particularly hard for me. I thought once I honed my spirit communication skills I would not grieve. But when a second brother of mine passed suddenly last year the shock is what really devastated me. One thing that the priest said at the funeral made me feel better. "Jesus wept at the grave of Lazarus." I thought if someone like Jesus with all of his knowledge and spiritual enlightenment and Godliness could grieve at his friend's grave, then it is ok for me to feel the way I do even though I know that our spirits live on and we can communicate while separated physically and will be reunited when we are both in our pure spiritual state.
Also what helped me is the very clear contact my brother made with me the day after he passed. For a few moments here and there I was at peace as he related how wonderful he felt after passing. My other brother who passed when I was younger comes through some days as well with his usual humor and some very loving images to demontrate that he is with me. I have begun to write a book about my experience with my brothers. I have my days when it is painful to write but it is important to me to tell my story in the hope that the bereaved will be inspired by those special moments I have with them as I go about my day. It is my calling and keeps me growing. Find your purpose and it will help you. We all have a purpose even when we think we have lost our it when a loved one such as a child or partner passes on.
I hope to be able to inspire people to learn to sense their deceased loved one's presence in that very subtle way that spirits convey their presence. While we can't physically hug them again in this life, cook a meal for them or see them get off the bus from school again, if we can adapt to their new life there is solace. What it requires is a combination of letting go of the form as we knew them and learning to open to the form they have taken since they left their physical body. It requires understanding what humans beings are at our essence. Our physical experience is finite but our spirit being and consciousness is eternal.