It is interesting to me that people still want to disregard civil rights. Yesterday, the United States Supreme Court shot down the Defense of Marriage Act that has been in place since the Clinton Era. This Act basically did not recognize same sex marriages, even if they were legally married in their state. Thus, allowing the federal government to deny spousal benefits to same sex marriage couples. I was listening to the response from the people who opposed this ruling and I was left flabbergasted. The buzzword that was common to all of them was, “We are destroying the building blocks of society”. It is interesting, if the foundation of our society is based on the marrying of two opposing genders, we are doomed to fail. Considering 50% of marriages end in divorce, I would say we are already standing on shaky ground. What if, and I know this will sound crazy, but what if instead the building blocks of society were based on love, caring, tolerance and respect. It seems to me those build a stronger foundation, then the mere combination of a man and a woman.
Civil Rights vs. Morality
Another argument I heard against the court’s ruling is that the courts have no right making moral decisions. Are you kidding me? You think this is an issue of morality? And if so, it does not break my moral code. It seems to most of the world that this is an issue of civil rights, not one of morality. And besides, as someone who believes in God, I was always under the impression that it was not up to us to judge another for his or her behavior. “Do not judge, lest ye be judged”. It seems that we should leave the issue of morality between the individual and their God; he doesn’t need our help in the matter. I also remember reading somewhere that we are to love our neighbor.
It is funny, I woke up this morning and my marriage seemed to be intact. I called a few of my heterosexual married friends and they said the same thing. It appears that same sex marriage does not seem to weaken my marriage. Do you know what does weaken a marriage? Showing disrespect, unkindness and intolerance to your partner. That will weaken a marriage faster than anything else. If we want to talk about creating a strong society, then ostracizing a group of people only wanting to be able to express love for their partner doesn’t seem like the right approach. Having children growing up in fear of sharing who they are or adults, who can’t be themselves, has a much larger impact on our fabric of society than being ok with two people of the same sex getting married.
Life, Liberty & Oppression?
You don’t have to fully embrace the idea; you just need to be respectful. And realize that this isn’t about your morality, it is about civil rights. You don’t need to protect God, he doesn’t need it. If you want to have the conversation about what creates a strong society than lets all agree that love shouldn’t be shameful or hidden. That it is ok for you to be who you are as long as you are respectful to others regardless of your sexuality. I have heard from many that America is the greatest country in the world because of our freedoms, how quickly we would like to diminish the freedoms of others when it doesn’t fit into our worldview. If you believe in life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness, then do just that. You may not like it, but you should at least recognize the hypocrisy of your view. We cannot pick and choose which liberties people should be afforded. Either you are for it or not, your personal view of morality has nothing to do with it.