Looking for love on the Internet? Be Careful! More than 30 million Americans now use websites to find love, but online dating expert Stephany Alexander warns that internet dating is a minefield - and she speaks from experience!
"Eventually, I l earned the secrets of how to identify Mr. Wrong on my way to finding Mr. Right," she says. She learned how to avoid the abusers, scammers, cheaters and dangerous men who prey on single women in online dating websites.
Now, as a guide for other women who use eHarmony.com and other popular online dating sites, Stehpany has compiled the lessons she learned in her new book, "Sex, Lies and the Intnet - a Survival Guide for Online Dating."
Stephany suggests to NOT even consider meeting a potential date in person until you do a background check on him. ON the Internet, people lie BIG. You owe it to yourself to find out the truth about anyone you are considering dating or spending time with.
Checkout sites like : www.publicrecordcenter.com. This site offeres links to sex offender databases, military records, court records, inmate searches, background checks (small fee), and vital statistics (marriage licenses, birth records, adoption etc..)
Next, be sure to ask a guy the right questions! Ask for his home number instead of a cell phone. If he refuses to give you a home number, he could be married or living with someone else. She also suggests a webcam session. It's much more difficult to pull off a fake picture / personality on a live webcam. Skype is also a great way to video chat free.
For more survival tips, check out Stepany's web site :: www.womansavers.com
Learn to spot the five most dangerous types of personalities on Internet dating sites.
1. The Mamma's Boy
This guy turns to his mother when making big decisions. IF he still lives at home, relies on his mother's money or acts childish, you may have a mama's boy on your hands.
2. The Womanizer
This man is a charmer who is only after one thing - SEX. Once he gets what he wants he is onto the next catch. Things to look for: He's a very smooth talker, commits too soon and has profiles on multiple dating sites.
3. The Manipulator
Watch out for this guy! You'll be doing his bidding before you even know his last name! The manipulator often makes his partner feel guilty and refuses to take responsibility for his actions.
4. The Narcissist
This man is obsessed with himself and has an exaggerated sense of self-importance. Be on the lookout for someone who expects you to put HIS needs first, can't take criticism and makes a big scene when he doesn't get his way!
5. The Sociopath
He thinks rules are for everyone EXCEPT him! He's not concerned about the truth about the truth and disregards the feelings of others. He also tends to be physically aggressive and irritable. Stay Away!