"Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance and order and rhythm and harmony." ~ Thomas Merton
Everyone with any degree of sensibleness wants his life to be balanced. The tips for how to
achieve this or for the Key Ingredients that make it demonstrable vary from
opinion to opinion. I'm going to lay out some ideas for you to see if
your life may be in balance.
Life is like a mental sandwich:
Another way to look at it is:
And still another way to consider if your life is balanced is this:
I think that any combination of those thirteen elements would produce a balanced life for you. I'd like to
suggest that you go back and re-read them once more. This time,
notate which ones make you feel uncomfortable.
Discomfort is your soul's way of letting you know you are off track and
that some correction is called for.
Making changes can be as simple as changing your sense, your thinking, about an issue. Let's look at
the point called "All that you do is enjoyable." We all know that
we can turn hard work into play by slathering on a layer of enjoyment to the
task. Look really, really hard at what you think is NOT enjoyable,
and see if you can find one small piece of it that is enjoyable.
Sometimes, repetitive tasks become humdrum and boring, but even with them, you can search out something enjoyable
as you get them done. For example, I'm more talented in the areas
of words than I am in numbers. So when it comes to doing
accounting tasks, I used to have a burdensome sense of procrastination.
And then it dawned on me that balancing a checkbook or balancing the
books for the month was a task of extreme precision. And then I
got to thinking about the extreme precision of the universe, and the wonder that
none of the planets collide!
With all that "balance" in mind, how could my books not balance, and how could I not enjoy the tasks?
"Balance, peace, and joy are the fruit of a successful life. It starts with recognizing your talents and finding
ways to serve others by using them." ~ Thomas