Keeping Yourself Up When Your Feelings Say "Down"

It’s human to think that everybody out there is having an easier time of it than we are, that somehow we aren’t measuring up. You might be surprised to learn that they feel the same way you do. It takes some years of experience to discover this and give yourself a little slack.

We have a tendency to judge the lives of others from the small slices we see, without considering the things we don’t see of their lives. They might have a stomach full of butterflies when they do their presentation. You may think their singing a song in a performance is grand, but you don’t see their hours and hours of practicing.

The “great,” have small moments of self-doubt just as you do. Behind their public smiles are their own personal challenges.

How do they keep up the smiles – and how can you?

Your thinking precedes your feelings – your emotions.

If you’re new to the journey within, you might not have discovered that what you think is what you get. If you are fretting, you’ll produce fear and worry. If you think “I‘m going to do this well,” you’ll have good results. I believe Shakespeare nailed it when he said:

There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.

And that would be you thinking it’s easy or hard, stressful or not. We all play the blame game on people, places and things, but it’s really what we think about those people, places and things that deserves the blame  or the glory. This would be your choice, so always look inside yourself first.

Find the Good in Your Right Now Experience.

We all believe some higher intelligence is overseeing our lives and we trust in that entity’s intrinsic goodness. Where you are right now is critical to where you might go next, so your immediate experience – courtesy of that intrinsically good entity – is good. Look for the good Trust that it will always work. It will.

Only One Next Step

I don’t know this for a fact, but I can imagine that the great Russian pianist Grigory Sokolov, pounded on a little toy piano as a baby. I’m also pretty sure his parents saw the seed of greatness in how he did it.

You have to see the seed of greatness in you, and you have to see what that can become as you take the next step that you can see to take. From this new vantage point, you’ll be able to see one more step, and as you take every “one step” forward, the next one will appear.

Life is about forward progress, but it takes something I’ll bet you already have: willingness. All those next small steps Sokolov took turned him into an extraordinary musician and pianist.

What small steps are you willing to take today to become the extraordinary you in the future?

Fail Better than You Do Anything Else

Samuel Becket said “Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.” If you tune into this one idea, you’ll cherish every failure.

What am I supposed to learn from this?

“Life is a schoolmaster,” St. Paul said, and we’re here to learn. So take risks. Stick your neck out. Be willing to look foolish. Shrug a lot, and keep taking those steps forward. You can, because you now know what doesn’t work! And remember this: you walk easily now. You fell down a lot when you learned how.

There is Only this One Right-Now Moment

Our higher intelligence entity has given each of us the same ingredients: a mind to think and feel, and 24 hours a day to use it.

You are the one exercising the options in your life. You can sun on the beach, watch endless hours of TV, hang with the boys, or take action.  You alone will know which actions that is.

“If it’s going to be, it’s up to Thee.”

With over 20 years of experience gained across television, radio and print, Maria Khalifé brings to her clients knowledge and understanding in holistic and motivational living. Maria brings to the world powerful life-changing experiences for those who seek extraordinary lives and want to reach their maximum potential. Maria can help you to uncover your true dynamic self. Please visit

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Comment by Regina Chouza on January 12, 2017 at 4:05pm

Hi Maria, Thanks for submitting this article, the topic is quite interesting =) Would you mind revising the point of view used so that it meets our submission criteria? As you may recall, we no longer accept articles that are written predominantly in first person singular (I/me) or 2nd person.  The preference would be for first person plural to make it more inclusive or 3rd person. 



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