It’s pretty easy to love ourselves when all is running smoothly, when our work is stable and the relationships in our lives feel connected and balanced. But what happens when you get in a harsh argument with your mate, or when the company you work for needs to downsize and adds to your workload while reducing your salary? Where do we turn when life’s challenges meet us straight on and demand our attention?
In times of hardship, most of us tend to forget that this is a friendly universe that is always supporting and uplifting us. If we knew, without a shadow of doubt, that all of the resources in the universe were constantly rushing forth to support our every need, a vivid clarity and receptivity would be ever-present, guiding us in the perfect direction, meeting the right people, and making decisions that lift us above the current circumstances. From this higher purview, we’re able to see clearly and attract the needed resources that bring success.
So why is it that so many of us stay stuck in the muck and mire of our given circumstances? If we know better, what keeps us running in the same loop that can often feel hopeless? Is it our lack of trust that we live in a supportive universe, or perhaps we’re so conditioned to feeling comfortable when faced with conditions of struggle and hardship? Imagine having a favorite pair of shoes, and through time, your feet slightly grow and gradually cause greater discomfort while walking. Rather than replacing these shoes, you choose to continue walking in them because they’re so familiar and your favorites. Even though you begin to limp and feel constricted, you put up with the pain due to a notion of false comfort!
We laugh at examples such as this, but the humor evoked is due to a sense of relationship with this silly behavior. In each moment, we have the opportunity to catch ourselves when feeling any semblance of pain, question its source, and make a self-honoring choice. In order to make this course correction, it’s imperative that we firmly believe that we’re worthy of living a life free from pain, a life that fully supports our well-being and grandest of expression. We need not bathe in the familiarity of discomfort. Yet, how do we catch these irrational beliefs as they surface? How do we shift a lifelong pattern based in struggle and unworthiness?
Below are a few tools that can serve as supportive reminders when we begin falling down the rabbit hole of false illusion.
The greater that we truly believe in the possibility of living a life free from constant pain, sadness and discomfort, the more consistently we choose love over fear, joy and expansion over pain, and goodness over heartache. It is our birthright to live a life based in love and always returning to this foundation of love throughout life’s constant changes that stretch us beyond where we could have ever imagined traveling…..no matter what!
Carl Studna is a world-renowned photographer, inspirational speaker, teacher and award winning author. Carl’s intimate portraits of influential people ranging from Sir Paul McCartney to His Holiness the Dalai Lama, are published and known worldwide. Carl has taken his message and experiences to print in his book, CLICK! Choosing Love One Frame at a Time. Studna’s innovative work, the LuminEssence Method©, teaches a new paradigm for radiating the light that resides within revealing each person’s authentic gifts.
(c) Photography by Carl Studna