by Gia Dalton
Are you making decisions in the heat of the moment, or rushing into commitments when you are feeling tired, angry, frustrated or vulnerable? Are your decisions made from a strained, forced, impulsive or purely reactive place, without careful consideration?
Decisions made hastily can be irrational and illogical. The angst you feel afterwards, is a clear indication of your misalignment with them. When you make conscious decisions, from a peaceful state of awareness, with a clear, uncluttered mind, you feel relaxed, confident and empowered.
Feelings, both positive and negative are often perceived as signals from the subconscious, meant for guidance. Conscious decisions are made with full awareness of what is happening around you, and inside you.
Having cognizance of your feelings, and the feelings of others will allow you to make decisions deliberately and with clear intention.
1. If someone betrays, ignores, or lets you down, trust that it is part of a bigger picture. When you are feeling hurt, vulnerable, or angry, chances are any decision made from this place, may be irrational, lack good judgment, and not for your highest good. Making a permanent decision, based on a momentary and perhaps temporary feeling, could lead to regret
Every relationship is an opportunity to learn, grow and evolve. Changing your perception of the situation can be deeply transformative and rewarding. By changing your perception, feelings surrounding the situation, will change too.
Examine the situation from several different perspectives. Consider alternatives, and the consequence of each. A deliberate response is more effective, than a purely emotional reaction.
2. Everything that is meant for you... will find it’s way to you. Life is constantly changing. The situation can change too. Many issues have a way of working out on their own. Sometimes the best decision, is deciding to not make one. Set it to the side, and revisit it later.
3. Joy comes flooding in, when you release yourself, and others from having to live according to a set plan. The ego wants to judge, compare, compete, and place blame. In knowing oneself, you are aware of your feelings, and how those feelings play into the decision making process.
If you are giving or receiving ultimatums, demanding a response within a short amount of time, when you are angry, this behavior is often viewed as aggressive, lacking compromise, and threatening.
An ultimatum that is made after careful reflection, calmly, thoughtfully, rationally, objectively, and realistically, with consideration of the consequences, at the right time, will come across a lot more reasonably.
Decisions made with patience bring a feeling of relief. Most ultimatums are given and made with haste. Before making, or responding to an ultimatum, take into consideration the coping skills and state of mind of the person you are dealing with. Ultimatums should be handled respectfully and with grace.
4. Be thankful for what you have. Practice gratitude. Some of the best days of your life haven’t happened yet. The Universe is abundant, with many blessings on the way.
When faced with any decision, remain open. Think outside the box. Opportunity does not, only knock once. Opportunities come again, and again, flowing towards you, bringing you closer to your desires, and always for the highest good.
Don't be afraid to pass on agreements, contracts, commitments or opportunities that you do not feel aligned with. You will know the time is right by the way you feel.
Trust your intuition, it is your inner guidance system. If you have a nagging feeling that something is not right, making a decision one way or the other, may not be the right time.
5. Be confident and bold. Act with expectancy. Get yourself right, and then make a decision.It is best to come from a place of love. If you are feeling agitated or frustrated, those emotions are mired with negativity. A decision made at this time, may not be for your highest good.
Confident, bold, empowering, decisions are made after careful consideration and quiet meditation. Have faith that you are exactly where you are meant to be. Know that everything happens for a divine reason, and at the perfect time, for your highest good.
6. Before making any decision, get good nights sleep. Things often look different in the morning. Take a walk. Get some exercise, meditate or take a yoga class. Allow yourself time to process how you feel. If you are tired, not feeling well, sleep deprived, or taking certain types of prescription medications, it is not a good time to make a decision.
The best decisions are made when you are well rested, with an uncluttered, clear mind, from a place of balance, alignment and peace.
7. Everything you are meant to accomplish, discover, create, invent, aspire to, or have will find its way to you. This mantra can help you through the decision making process. You are exactly where you are meant to be.
Making decisions consciously, from a place a peace is a practice that will empower you to live authentically, deliberately, and with loving intention.
Gia Dalton is a Visionary Writer, Doctor of Oriental Medicine, Acupuncture Physician, Teacher, Speaker, Coach and Intuitive Life Strategist. “My mission is to Motivate, Empower and Inspire the lives of others with Integrity, Beauty and Love."