What is the biggest issue about our “negative” emotions? Why do we call them negative? It is about what we believe about those emotions. Do you ever get angry and wished you did not get angry?
Our biggest issue with our emotions, anger being the most common feeling, is that we judge and try to get rid of them without first feeling and acknowledging them. For example, the reason we call anger negative, is in reality about our reaction rather than the feeling. How can a real emotion be negative or bad? Its negativity is about our potential response to anger. If we respond to anger by exploding or repressing it within, it then has a negative impact on us. Proper expression of any emotion, including anger, has “positive” impacts on us.
If you were raised in a “peaceful” family where the healthy expression of anger was not encouraged, then you most likely are carrying repressed anger in your body and subconscious. Anger, like any emotion, is energy that requires transformation. If is not felt and transformed it will be in a repressed state until one day, like a volcano, it erupts in a form of rage or disease.
Do you recognize when you feel anger? Where in your body do you feel it? How do you process it? Do you resist feeling your anger? Do you judge it? Do you feel guilty for feeling anger?
Denial is a thick armor.
“I am not angry.”
Denial so deep, numbness is the only feeling.
If a feeling surfaces, it is crushed like a fly.
Ego controls the response.
“How can you feel like this?”
“People will judge you harshly.”
“You are not spiritual if you feel like this.”
Pushed deeper out of fear.
Ego can be heard again:
“What you feel does not matter.”
“What others feel about you matters!”
Life goes on …
Controlled bursts of joy, yet shallow in depth.
Controlled bursts of anger, only allowed with the right cause and in right place.
reminder of repression of inner truth.
Aching and tight body
reminder of repressed emotions.
Beware of the time,
when the emotion is forced out in rage or
in the form of disease.
Copyright @2014 by Shervin Hojat