So many of those of us who are attempting to live a conscious life have heard, and/or tried to live out of the principles of negativity and positivity. We have heard and believed what we have been taught regarding the negativity of a fear, for example, that says we might not succeed on a given project. We have heard and believed what we have been taught regarding the power of the so-called negative thought or feeling to bring us equally negative experiences. We have heard and believed the idea that we must do the work of thinking positive thoughts, which will then create positive feelings. And we have believed that in so doing, we will attract positive experiences.
Likewise, we been taught and we have believed that fear and love cannot exist in the same place, for fear precludes the possibility of love, and love casts out fear.
This brief article is an attempt to assist us in unlearning these teachings--which actually teach us to fear our own thoughts and feelings--while simultaneously teaching us that fear is negative. We have been taught that we must bargain with the Universe, (God, the gods, spirit, Source, or whatever we call our connection to the divine, which will be referred to from here on out as the divine) to get what we want. We have been taught that the ebb and flow of life is wrong, because it can be interpreted in terms of the positive or the negative. We have been taught very similarly to traditional and fundamentalist thinking that teaches that the devil and sin are knocking on our door constantly and we must always be on guard against them. We must, likewise, always be on guard lest we think a negative thought, or feel a negative feeling,
This idea of the negative and the positive can be found in the unconscious of every person on the planet, in one form or another. Why is this? Because we have all been hypnotized into a trance state of duality, in which we think that we are separate from the divine. Why would we be separate from the divine? Because the divine is good and we are bad. There are many mythological and metaphorical stories about how this trance state came into being. But one of the primary ones known to the Western world is the story of Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden. When Eve--the early representative of the archetypal feminine--incorporated into the body/mind the notion that there are some things that are good and some things that are bad, what she was also incorporating was the notion that the bad would necessarily have to be separate from the divine--for the divine is absolute goodness.
But what if the divine isn't absolute goodness, but absolute beingness, isness, nowness, presence? Would that then allow us to let go of the notion that there is some kind of badness that separates us from the divine? And if that is true, then can we also let go of the idea of negative thinking or positive thinking, negative feeling or positive feeling?
What if nothing is negative or positive, but we only interpret it to be so? What if our interpretations have us feeling separate from the divine, though we are not now nor have we ever been separate from the divine?
What if, in fact, we are and always have been One with the divine? What if we are also One with all of creation--so that there is no need to attract anything, for we are already One with it? What if love and fear always exist in the same place and cannot cast each other out simply because all is One? What if, indeed, fear is just another form of self-love--which helps us know when to slow down, look both ways, pay attention to what we are doing, and what's going on around us, etc?
Is it possible that we have been taught by well-meaning teachers, who, because the duality trance state still has so much power over us, did not realize they were speaking double-speak when they told us on the one hand that all is Oneness, but on the other, that we should fear our own emotions and thoughts, and separate ourselves from them in order to attract the things we want because those things are otherwise separate from us?
If all truly is Oneness, then everything on the planet, indeed the planet itself, is already ours. If all is truly Oneness, then I can be present in the isness of the now of my thoughts and emotions, allow them to give me the information that they have come to give, and let them roll on to the beach like a wave Ijust swam through. If the divine is absolute beingness, isness, nowness and presence, then I can be in my beingness, in my isness, in the nowness and present with my own presence to experience life on the most fundamental and essential level of awareness. Is there more to consciousness than this?
By Andrea Mathews, LPC, PhD.
Andrea Mathews is a psychotherapist, author, speaker and radio host. With over 33 years' experience in the mental health field, the last 18 in a thriving private practice, Andrea is now offering workshops to other clinicians, in which she is teaching how to allow the spiritual into the therapeutic endeavor in an interfaith/interspiritual way. She is the author of three books: Restoring My Soul: A Workbook for Finding and Living the Authentic Self; The Law of Attrraction: The Soul's Answer to Why It Isn't Working And How It Can; and Inhabiting Heaven NOW: The Answer to Every Moral Dilemma Ever Posed. For the past 8 years, she has hosted the most popular show on the 7th Wave, VoiceAmerica, entitled the Authentic Living show, on which she has interviewed some of the world's most prolific and profound spiritual authors and entertainers.