Abstract...When grief seems to take away everything that we have, something else comes to fill us and the process becomes the path of self-discovery. How it all reveals comes as we peel the grief, every bit of it to its core, to see and acknowledge if there was a wealth that we could mine from those unmined depths. With faith and surrendering as we give in, gratitude seems to rise.
When grief gives birth to gratitude, and we begin to feel both, we are transformed. They both are the hallmarks of mental health. When tragedy strikes the life and we grieve the loss of a loved one, so much so, that we are completely immersed in a darkness and nothing but it, one day somehow gratitude begins to arise from the same heart that spent days and nights in a silent sobbing. The thankful heart begins to be born. We seem to be grateful for all the goodness rising from the dark dungeon of sorrow.
Crushed in grief, one day astonishingly, we feel like we are sprouting. The deeds of thankfulness that were planted by the grief are now getting sprouted. It is our rebirth. Grief and gratitude, one doesn’t erase the other. We will always grieve for the loss that we face, yet from that grieving we will recollect the happy hours, the happy times that we once had with them and for that we will forever remain thankful. Our choicest thoughts will arise from those moments, when looked back in love. We can create a craft when weaving those memories, one that can speak from our soul, that will give an unending joy, yet at the same time, we will grieve for the fact that they will return no more.
As we delve into our sad selves while mourning, then comes the time to feel the heart in thankfulness, to sense the rebirth of our own selves after life slams us so hard. As we peel off the sadness, we see the light of gratitude. As we unmask it, the beauty reveals. As long as we stay immersed in weeping and wallowing, we doubt if we are ever going to be back in our lives again with hope, faith, love and positivity. During these moments, we shake so much that we break inside. If we can peel the pain, layer by layer, with the help of art as it heals the broken heart, then a time will come, when from the shakiness we can feel our feet again, having gratitude and thankfulness inside. While spilling out the tears of a thousand agonies, it may seem the end has come, but what we do consider an end, from there rises another beauty in sight. Could that be the living light of life, the light that asks a heart to remain thankful for every goodness that is showered in our lives from the heart of heaven above.
It is a process and a journey, but when the intensity of sadness falls off, it is then that we get to feel the thankfulness. In the light of surrendering, as we put our trust and accept the loss, in the faith that something good will arise, we then look back at those times that were once in our lives. What we took for granted in the past, we now know that it was not meant to stay. From that realization, comes the thankfulness of what we once had, those golden times. How the day ends for the night, how the leaves shed in autumn, and we know what comes must go.
Knowing this, we begin to see everything in a new light with a grateful heart, giving thanks for what we have. Thankfulness becomes our daily way of living, knowing the dawn of gold will eventually die to show the sunset spread in sky. What dies in a moment leaves behind something; Sometimes, it takes a loss to hit us with this truth, some other times, we know thankfulness in our minds as a mere knowledge but to feel it with all the richness, it takes us to be crumbled down on the grounds. And as we sit there, looking at the piles of all the yesteryears, it is gratitude that rises from there. The loss didn’t go in vain after all. Something did arise and that something is beautiful. It is a heart that is beating with gratitude.
From that moment, we change for this lifetime. Nothing ever stays the same. We are transformed emotionally and psychologically. As we begin to give thanks for all the beauties that reveal in every moment. Our way of living becomes full of conscious choices. We live in the light of consciousness. We become empowered with light. From the wounded warrior we become the carriers of light. As we become enlightened, we leave a trail of light for others. As we heal, we heal others. And how shared becomes the journey. We do not walk alone anymore. We are wayfarers along this sacred pilgrimage. Our deepest feelings and emotions are shared with one another. Through such a sharing, we develop a sense of community, a kinship with all around us. From grief we rise, and in gratitude we fly, soaring with our wings up high in sky.
The acceptance of our loss will never be the ending point of grief, rather it will always be a portal to living life to the fullest. This truth of not taking anything for granted makes us conscious of all the gifts that every moment brings, knowing those too can be taken away. From such a truth, does thankfulness get seeped in within our heart and soul and we continue this journey of life, beholding all the wonders being bowed down in thankfulness. As we bow down, we give every praise to all that comes on our pathway, as beauty falls from the lips of heaven to our hearts. For what falls down from above, we send our thanks. It is a moment when we acknowledge that what we take, we take them giving a proper recognition, not in indifference, not in ignorance, but with salutation. And that is the birth of a new beginning.
It becomes a path of self-discovery. Many think, grieving is a shame but from grief when gratitude rises, it becomes an act of beauty, an act of respect that we learned something from it. Grief did not go in vain, rather it gave birth to us again. And in this rebirth, we are born as empowered beings being able to gaze at this world and life with a deep thankfulness.
Jayita Bhattacharjee....born in Calcutta, India and later on education from University of Houston in Economics, she had chosen her career as a trustee and teacher.
Her books " The Ecstatic Dance of Life",
" Sacred Sanctuary", " Light of Consciousness", " Dewdrops of Compassion" " The Light of Life",
" Song of Eternity" " The Breath of Heaven" are among the many that she has authored.