Abstract: Defining the word ego. Questioning why we try to push our ego away. Remembering that every aspect of us is an integral part of the whole. Embracing and bringing our ego back to whole being wellness.
How does it feel when someone tries to push us away? What if we have been treating our egos that way? Ego allows us to be aware we exist. It gives us a sense of wholeness in relation to everything else in the universe. Ego supports us in having healthy boundaries within a greater knowing that we are one with all that is. So why has our ego gotten such a bad rap? Spiritual, religious and psychological teachings often have confused the word ego with a distorted perception of how we see ourselves, our self image. Ego is a psychological term popularized by Freud in1923. Freud used the word ego to mean the part of our conscious mind that is aware of our identity and the fact we exist. A more modern conception related to Freud’s is to consider the ego as self-consciousness. The system that is narrating the portion of human consciousness that reflects on one’s thoughts, feelings and actions and inhibits or legitimizes them to one’s self and to others. So why do we even question whether our ego is our friend or foe?
Ego is a gift from our creator. After years of being shamed, blamed and pushed away, it is time for our ego to be embraced as a loving and empowering aspect of ourselves. All aspects are sacred, sensitive and have an important role in supporting us to thrive. The following are ways to embrace and experience our ego as a friend and ally…
- Asking ourselves the question: What is the nature of experiencing a healthy ego that supports, nurtures and empowers us in every possible way?
- Letting go of trying push our ego away. When we push our ego away we substitute it with an exaggerated sense of self- importance and/or self rejection. We feel out of alignment with ourselves. Bringing awareness into how we do this supports us in reconnecting with ourselves and source.
- Engaging in this powerful process: Get two pillows. Designate one pillow for the part of us that thinks we need reject our ego. Designate the other pillow as our ego. Engage in a conversation. Let our ego speak, express and interact with us about how it has feels about being judged and pushed away. Perhaps our ego needs to cry, scream, hit or yell it’s anguish into a pillow. Then move to sharing how it feels from our perspective. Why we thought we had to push ego away. Let both sides speak and express until it turns into an experience of compassion and willingness to forgive. Allow the love, appreciation and gratitude to bring it to full resolution.
- Building a healthy sense of self esteem by loving ourselves, no matter what the evidence. Embracing our ego as part of of what allows us to feel good about ourselves, being able to accept our faults or limitations and having a compassionate feeling toward ourselves.
- Moving our bodies as way to release any holding back. Dancing, singing and shaking allows our energy to vibrate and circulate. It opens up our breathing, releases endorphins and makes it easy to change our perspective.
- Bringing forth the best in ourselves. Allow our ego to take it’s place as an important part of us. Changing the belief that our ego must be transcended or suppressed in order for us to become a functional member of humanity. Embrace the excitement and celebration in knowing we exist. Be grateful for the processes that influence how we feel, what inspires us, when and why we have conflict and what we need to feel fulfilled and in alignment with ourselves.
- Being present in the miracle of our existence. Bathing in the oneness and awesomeness of it all.
- Being proud of our ego. Releasing any shame about wanting to be our best.
- Embracing our ego in the times when we feel utterly lost, lonely and isolated. Appreciating our ego as a friend who supports us in spiritual discernment and realizing that our connection with self and our source are all we need in each here and now. Reaching out to others for support knowing that our ego functions in the capacity to be compassionate and understanding of ourselves and others.
- Opening to the possibility that we came forth into this world with an aligned intention to experience the pleasure of being physical. Being curious and asking questions on how we can improve and expand our experience of life. Letting our ego support us by being good at asking, defining, focusing and self serving. Embracing our ego as a friend and ally who helps us to focus and realize our dreams.
About the author:
Crystal Presence is an author, certified expansion guide with the Total Integration Institute, multidimensional coach and facilitator for the event called Freedom at the Core. She draws from her own experience and the experience of the thousands of people she has worked with over the past 35 years. Crystal is known for the fun and empowering way she supports people in bringing forth the experiences they want in their lives.