In honouring the Universal Blessing my son Gifted me, in CHOOSing Me to BE his mommy, I not only ensured his awareness of this fact, I also humbly set aside my ego and allowed my son, his innate intrinsic BEingness, to lead me in my parenting of him.
I allowed Zion to “show me the way”, to guide me in the ‘how’s', ‘when’s', ‘where’s’ and ‘why’s’ for my guidance of him.
This, I started from the time he was born.
Disregarding the “standards”, I looked to Zion to tell me when he needed to eat, sleep, play, BE.
Zion slept in bed with me until he was 6 months.
True, I CHOSE this ‘sleeping arrangement’ for we, it is my personal belief that a baby’s most comfortable place to BE is next to his mommy, to her heart beat and her body, and of course I’ve never liked the whole bars/cage like feel of a crib.
I don’t even put my little kitties into cages…..just a personal thing.
Still, Zion didn’t suddenly stop sleeping in my bed because…I woke up one morning and said, okay, he’s 6 months, that’s enough!
He kept kicking me in the night, attempting to make more room for himself in the bed, letting me know, “mommy, I need my own space!!”, and so, his own space was he given
I breast fed Zion until he was 10 months.
I can still remember the last time he went to my breast for his sustenance. We were lying in the bathtub, right before HIS dream time. He allways had a last feeding before dream time.
His head was lying right by my breast, the perfect opportunity for which he normally took full advantage, only this time, he didn’t. When we went to lie down in bed thereafter, even after sleeping in his own bed, I always lay down with Zion before his trip to “dream land”, he again was in “perfect pose” and again, even with my offering, did not want to breast feed.
It was of his CHOOSing.
Zion is now 13, and we have had many such experiences, as you KNOW, life is ALL about stages, and within each, we learn, grow, transcend and thus change.
There have been many times through out our fantabulous relationship, as I know there shall continue to be, when I have hoped for, wanted Zion to learn something new, do something different, however, I never “forced” anything on him. Whether it was tying his shoe laces, “potty training”, or even walking to school on his own, all of these great developments, “achievements” in life, were accomplished WHEN Zion was ready to so accomplish them.
Some he did way before other children of his age, and some way after, however,NEVER did I question Zion’s personal development.
YES!! We are ALL the same, ALL BEings of the Human Species, Earthlings, however, the fantabulousness of having so many of us, is the wondrous diversity by which our sameness may be expressed
In allowing for Zion to express his unique BEingness, his mirror of how one of WE may BE, Zion has been given the gift of following his nature TRUE and thus evolving according to his inner SELF, regardless of that which has been dictated by another as the “Right way”. Hence, an Enlightened BEing.
There have, of course, as there shall continue to BE, been challenges, or as I like to call them, opportunities we have come across along the way, however, again, these were opportunities for growth, learning and transcendence for BOTH of WE.