Reality and Dealing with Negative Feelings
Anger, frustration, fear, worry – they do come – we are only human. The question is what to do with these feelings when they arise. This is a question I was confronted with just a couple of days ago, when I found myself swamped in them after spending several frustrating hours dealing with insurance companies regarding a claim following someone running into my car from behind while my daughter was driving. This happened a couple of months ago , and until now the money has not been paid to me to cover the repairs.
I found myself in an extremely difficult place - with feelings that I hadn’t experienced for a long time – and was at a loss about what to do regarding my reaction to the situation. Remember, we are always responsible for the way we feel and so these feelings of anger, frustration, fear and worry were not what was upsetting me, but the fact that I allowed myself to react in a way which allowed these feelings to arise in the first place.
So …what to do?
Well, it took me awhile, but I realized that first of all, the feelings must be validated, allowed to exist, and not buried. Allow them their own freedom to "be" – find out where they are coming from and then move past them back to the balanced place. If doing this involves a day or two of sleeping a lot, or playing computer games, of not meditating and doing yoga, don’t beat myself up about it. Allow myself the luxury of succumbing once in awhile. The downs only make the highs easier to relish, appreciate and be grateful for!
The relapses into bad times have a place in our lives and as such, are just as much a blessing as the so-called “good” stuff. In the end, EVERYTHING is good, and for our own Higher Good.
And, once again, I give thanks to God and the loving Universe for my many blessings, even when it takes me awhile to become aware of them.
with Love Light and Joy