RELAX, RELEASE, REALIZE: 3 Steps to Moving Forward from a Troubled Past

Many people are very uncomfortable listening to their thoughts. Recent research finds that people, especially men, would rather endure pain than be alone with their own reflections. But if we do not learn to comfortably move within, relax, get in touch with our inner thoughts, learn to watch them as a witness, and then release unwanted ones, our inner turmoil will continue to nag at us and we will always be on the run.

We are uncomfortable going within because we are fearful of what we might find inside. From early childhood we condition our minds with "beliefs" about ourselves and about our environment; they become our second nature while they drive us all the time.

These conditions, whether true or not, go deep and create the person. People who have all that is needed to make them extremely happy are still victims of their own conditioned mind. If their beliefs are based on wrong conditions imposed in early childhood, the conditioning will persist and will invite pain and suffering.

Here are three proven ways to empower ourselves to relax, go within, identify our old patterns and beliefs, release them, and create space for us to realize our own Self.


Research shows that it is impossible to feel both anxious and relaxed at the same time. Therefore it is important that we first learn to totally relax our body before it feels safe to go within.

Practice Relaxing:

Sit in silence, without doing anything, close your eyes and move within. Relax every part of your body and breathe with awareness for a while. As you open up the reservoir of all your old patterns and beliefs, at this time affirm with passion, " All is well in my life, I am being protected by the Divine Light from within.” Sit in this place of Quiet, where there is no noise of your mind’s chatter and stress. Try not to dig up sad memories, or possible future apprehensions and fear. If these thoughts come, separate yourself from them, just witness them without judgment, and let them pass you by. You are not your thoughts. Just be with your Self.


Most of us hurt ourselves and put the blame on others. A little soul-searching will show how we belittle ourselves, end up feeling guilty, and at times suffer with “not as good as someone else” syndromes. A simple question: if we don't respect ourselves, love ourselves, and forgive and release our past, how long are we to carry the poison within? Why should we create a negative vibratory field and then curse, "Oh! God, why me?"

"Release" has a very important place in the book of enlightenment that we all write during the course of our life's quest for Truth. Releasing wrong beliefs and constricting conditions is essential in creating space for the new to happen.

Practice Releasing:

At this stage, release any resentment or negativity in your heart. Feel that things are happening as they have to happen, and that you are just a watcher or witness. Withdraw yourself from any judgments at this stage while you cleanse your inner mind.

Release any sense of guilt and shame that has taken root, as do weeds, in your inner mind. For there is no doer other than the Ultimate Doer. That which is happening, has happened and shall continue to happen, as everything is within the design of the unified field of Consciousness. The wise never feel any guilt or regrets, but know that, “All is well. This too shall pass.”

A strong conviction and consistent effort to substitute those negative thoughts with positive ones can be immensely helpful. You can substitute pain-giving thoughts with affirmations such as, "I am happy I have completed this part of my life, and am now ready to release it to the eternal light. I am safe, I am secure," can be immensely helpful. This can release the old and create the new that you are looking for in any sphere of your material or spiritual life. Create space for Celebration to happen!!!


There is only one door that separates us from knowing our true self; our conditioned mind! The unconditioned mind is also the only gateway to the opening to the ultimate reality, the Ultimate Realization! That which causes all bondage also creates all freedom in the Ultimate. That which binds us also frees us! That which chains us also totally releases us! That is the ultimate beauty of mind. Nothing in this world can ever match the excellence of mind.

We can spend our whole lives having a precious mind without being mindful of its ultimate Gift until such time when we might go someplace and hear about mindfulness and its importance in our lives. Mindful is being full of mind! Not half full, not quarter full, but entirely full. We become full of the beauty of the mind and its potential, and its possibility and opportunity and all that it can offer to us when we release that which is old and create space for the new.

Practice Meditation:

Begin with at least fifteen to twenty minutes of regular, consistent practice each day. First, take a deep breath and exhale. Watch your incoming and outgoing breaths for a while. Relax and release all that you are holding on to into the space created by letting go.

Relax, stretch, breathe, and then finally meditate to stabilize the positive power in the cells of your body and the wholeness of your mind. When you observe your breath, you are closest to your Self. Your consciousness deepens and your energy rises as you become meditative and contemplative.

Ultimately it is realizing the infinite capacity of the inner silence and tranquility and bathing in the light of Divine Presence that can release us from the fetters of all bondage and make us free to realize our Self.

Shuddhaanandaa Brahmachari (Kolkata, India), is a globally acclaimed motivational and spiritual teacher, author, social advocate and peace maker. Founder of Stress Management Academy, his Simple Art of Managing Stress and Course in Mindfulness are known worldwide, inspiring corporate leadership, students and all seekers of peace and happiness to be the leaders of tomorrow.

Author of the internationally acclaimed Making Your Mind Your Best Friend, Shuddhaanandaa was the recipient of the Man of Peace Award from the World Organisation for Peace in Mexico, 2012. He is recognized as a visionary social advocate for his development of groundbreaking programs that serve thousands of poverty-stricken individuals in slums of Calcutta, India and remote villages of West Bengal. He founded Lokenath Divine Life Mission in 1985.

Please read his new books Cleaning the Mirror of Mind, and The Incredible Life of a Himalayan Yogi, both available on Kindle.

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Comment by Shuddhaanandaa Brahmachari on July 8, 2014 at 12:41pm

Thank you Trevor! I hope you are able to meet up with Baba in UK. :)! 

Comment by Shuddhaanandaa Brahmachari on July 8, 2014 at 12:40pm

Comment by Trevor Taylor on July 8, 2014 at 7:22am

Thank you Baba, and Susan. Recommended to the publishers for inclusion in one of the forthcoming multi-media editions of OM Times

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