Say NO to the Spiritual Bypass!

7 Steps to Awakening

Early in addiction recovery, it’s common for newbie recovering addicts, learning of a “Higher Power” to throw themselves into spirituality. They sit in tattooed glory, coffee in one hand and cigarette in the other, and smile soulfully while sharing their newly discovered spiritual superiority. They never lose their tempers, harbor no thoughts of revenge, never judge anyone (except those who haven’t attained enlightenment). The only others to exhibit this behavior are Catholic-school products raised on “Lives of The Martyrs”.

The danger of this “Spiritual Bypass” is relapse. Adopting a Guru instead of doing the work of spiritual growth builds no foundation. The Chakra system is one road map to spiritual growth. And each Chakra has traps and hooks for those in a rush to enlightenment. The First, or Root Chakra, is the center of security. Its hooks are fears about safety and survival.

Hooks in the first Chakra were installed early. The panic of the food addict facing an empty refrigerator, the safety beckoning to the gambler by the score – these must be faced to escape the clutches of the first Chakra. The work is to understand and believe that safety only lies in one's own grounding, the commitment to Self. This isn’t a single, “once done and over” step, but is the basis for the “Three-Step Waltz” familiar in early recovery.

Chakra Two rules emotions, sexuality, creativity and the sense of self. The hook is evident in Sex and Love addicts' behavior, falling for the same “bad boy” in different clothes. The work is to be at peace with emotions – welcome them, name them, learn that they are not all-powerful. Reclaiming the sacred self from the ravages of “needing love”, from emotional orgies, and sensual desires is a steep part of the mountain – and normally has many slips down the side.

Related to the second Chakra is the Third – the place of boundaries and will. Learning to set and hold boundaries is difficult, but possible. The real trap comes in learning to respect others’ boundaries, to allow them to be themselves! The slogan associated with the Third Chakra is “What you think of me is none of my business”. This sneaky trap explains why co-dependency is harder to overcome than addiction – and why it kills people sooner than any drug. The work of the third Chakra is to develop a functional adult persona – a difficult task for every “stuck in adolescence” addict!

After the work of the lower three Chakras, the path to spiritual awakening starts to get HARD! The Fourth Chakra is the Heart center – the home of love and compassion. During a spiritual bypass, the seeker thinks the job is to love and accept everybody. Sorry, but no – the work is to love the Self, embrace the Self with all its flaws, and shower yourself with compassion. This is the step of coming out of the closet – taking to the streets to declare “I Was Born This Way!” with Lady Gaga.

The Fifth Chakra rules the throat and demands Truth. This is where pleasant lies stop – the lies to yourself, the white lies to others. One trap is confusing rudeness with truth – there is no need to share passing thoughts or judgements! Learning that one's thoughts are not the Truths the world needs to hear is a shock to the ego - and a necessary step on the road to enlightenment!

The work of the sixth Chakra is facing the Truth about one's own Self – another “coming out of the closet” of self-deceit. The Third Eye (between the brows) is the Chakra of knowing. The work is claiming one's knowledge, recognizing the truth seen, and letting go of all the little denials that make life easy (he loves me, even when he’s mean to me). The work is to claim one's intuition, and release denial and hiding. Another trap is getting too impressed with knowing, and believing in a “unique gift”!

Finally, the Crown Chakra is the connection to the Universe, to Infinite Truth, to GOD, however you envision God. The work is to surrender to God’s plan – whoever your god is and however frightening the plan! The traps are many – the “spiritual bypass” (deciding that being spiritual allows one to skip all the work of the other Chakras), becoming a Guru who tells others how to live, becoming a sacrifice who has no wants because you are so “sacred”.

The Chakras (or energy centers, from the Sanskrit for “wheel”) provide a path and road map to spiritual awakening, but it is a rocky path, and the map has many dead ends along the way. The hardest lessons are to enjoy the journey, release the goal, and love the traveler!

Happy trails to you!



Explains the “spiritual bypass” (leaping to declare that one is enlightened, while avoiding the work needed to reach awakening). Explains the work and challenges at each Chakra on the road to enlightenment, and offers keys to overcome those challenges. For example, the work of the Heart Chakra is Love, but the challenge is to learn and practice Self Love!


Author Bio

Tess Pender is an ordained Interfaith Minister, active in 12-step programs for over thirty years. Her spiritual practice began with Native American Sweat Lodges, and continued with a series of Vision Quests. She led a Teen Spiritual Education Program, and regularly teaches classes on accessing intuition. She practices Earth-Centered Spirituality. She can be reached on Facebook at

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Comment by Regina Chouza on March 29, 2017 at 5:28pm

Great thanks! I sent it to the publishers this weekend.

Comment by Tess Pender on March 23, 2017 at 1:31am

Hi, Regina,

I revised my bio to include a contact link to a facebook page. I edited the article above with the new bio, and I' also including it here.  Pleas elet me know if additional editing woutl be b editng owuld be better!



Tess Pender is an ordained Interfaith Minister, active in 12-step programs for over thirty years.   Her spiritual practice began with Native American Sweat Lodges, and continued with a series of Vision Quests. She led a Teen Spiritual Education Program, and regularly teaches classes on accessing intuition.  She practices Earth-Centered Spirituality.  She can be reached on Facebook at

Comment by Regina Chouza on March 22, 2017 at 4:48pm

Hi Tess - sure, let me know what you would prefer =)



Comment by Tess Pender on March 18, 2017 at 10:06pm

Hi, Regina.  No, I do not have a website.  I sometimes co-lead classes with my daughter, and I could see if she would like me to link to hers, if it would be better to have one.  (She is one of your featured authors.)



Comment by Regina Chouza on March 18, 2017 at 7:57pm

Hi Tess - quick question - do you have a website that you'd like to feature in the author bio? Thanks! Regina

Comment by Tess Pender on March 9, 2017 at 4:28pm

Thanks, Regina! that will be a BIG improvement over re-posting the whole thi

Comment by Regina Chouza on March 9, 2017 at 3:20pm

wonderful thanks! I'll have a look =)

Just so you know, in the 'option' drop down menu you should be able to edit articles that have already been submitted. The button is on the upper right hand side of the article.



Comment by Tess Pender on March 9, 2017 at 3:12pm
Thanks, Regina. I'm sorry, I'm not familiar with your word processing system! I posted a new version of the article - no changes to the content, but I added an abstract and bio at the end - is that how you would like them each time, or is there a different format I should use? I have another article prepared, but I want to be sure I understand all the logistics before I submit it! Thanks for your help. (I was also a little unsure of how you wanted me to communicate that I had made the changes you requested! I hope this works!)

Comment by Regina Chouza on March 8, 2017 at 8:42pm

Hi Tess, Hope you are well?

Thanks for submitting this piece. My name is Regina, I'm one of the editors at OM Times Magazine. I really like the subject that you have chosen here. Would you be able to add two small elements before I send it through to the publishers for consideration? 

Please let me know when the following details are ready: 

- An Abstract (up to 80 words) with highlights that could be used to promote the article. 

- An Author Bio with details on who you are, and where people can find you. This can be up to 60 words or 400 characters approx. This is the space for self-promotion =)

Other than that I would only need to make minor edits on my end.  

Thanks in advance!


ps ... please send me an inbox when it's done so that I know to look. 

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