Dear Source…a friend is making brave yet necessary changes in her life. She has known for many years she could not sustain her marriage and started taking classes, going to seminars, while seeking mental, emotional, physical and spiritual support to find the way to reclaim her power. When she married, she knew it was not the best decision, but it was one she made in peace with herself. Over time, the relationship became untenable, unstable, and very broken. The time finally came when action needed to be taken. She cried herself to exhaustion most nights thinking about leaving her married life of 25 years. Due to extreme stress, her health had been compromised. Finally her adrenals were shot and she was barely functioning. At night sleep was elusive and the worry cycle rampant. She worried that moving her mother (who lived in the second unit on the property) would have unseen consequences, she worried she would be angry with her husband thus blowing all the training over the last five years, she worried about her fear of being alone, she worried if she would ever be sane again. She had given all she could to resolve an unresolvable one-way relationship. Her mother suggested she go to church since church solves everything including divorce. Her husband remained closed and unapproachable. She preserved. She knew she had to change for her sanity and soul. She accomplished the massive cleanup; retained a real estate broker; searched for an apartment to rent; searched for an assisted living facility for her mother; searched for a place to rehome her husbands dogs, and continually looked into her heart and soul to be sure she was on the right path with this massive life change. She always received the same answer – yes this was the right course for her. Yet, she remained scared and felt ungrounded one minute and proud and strong the next. As she moved through the multitude of tasks she needed to do, everything started falling into place with startling and slightly unsettling ease. The only facility her mother would agree to live in suddenly had a room, the on-going cleanup was progressing, the dogs were rehomed, the right apartment fell into her lap, the house went on the market and received two offers within two days, the move out was imminent. Her friends rallied around her giving her help and support. She was still shaky and scared, down to the toes scared, but she knew deep in her heart she had to do this. There was no other choice except slow heart and soul death. She had prepared herself for the devastating life change and was strong as she dealt with all aspects of the move. However, with all she has gone through, she does not recommend an action like this unless one is fully prepared for all the consequences. Any life upset like hers is deeply troubling, yet vitally and soulfully essential. She is finally breathing with the keen awareness of knowing she has made the most important decision of her life allowing her soul to finally come alive, her body to recover and her mind to be active rather than live any longer in a dead and unhealthy space…Suzie
Suzie Daggett spins real life advice with ageless wisdom. The result? Life flows, your soul & ego balance, your intuition amps up. Suzie is a speaker, writer and intuitive business consultant. She is the author of From Ego to Soul and PEARLS ~ 52 Contemplative Insights.