Self Reflection - A Journey Of Authenticity 837 words
Abstract: We judge, and move on. We might not realize that we take the vibration of that energy with us. Here is a way to comfortably practice self-reflection.
For as long as humanity has existed, we have practiced contemplation to find our purpose and understand our essence. Individually, each of us wants to be our best self. We have an innate awareness that this is how we will find our true happiness and freedom. There is a natural source of curiosity that comes to life when our instincts tell us that something isn't right and that we have to own the responsibility of making the change.
While change can be scary sometimes, we know in our hearts that it is necessary. We can't change others, but we can inspire them by continuing our journey of self-awareness efficiently. It requires an ongoing effort in taking a look at who we are as individuals. That means continuous self-reflection. It's a good thing because with it comes tremendous personal growth and authenticity. The alternative is a life of being blind to our best self and the opportunities that would otherwise flow through us. We are left in the space of judgment that will only work against what we want in life. The closer we are to our authentic self, the more we can raise the vibration that is at the core of who we are and what we will become.
Don't be deceived though, the responsibility of self-reflection requires great courage, and we should honor that courage. Because when we look at ourselves, we are going to find out things about ourselves that we may not have known. But that's ok because whatever the finding, it is a part of who we are and it too should be loved. What we find doesn't have to be a bad thing either. We can easily find out all kinds of exciting information about who we are at our core. Like asking ourselves why it is that we can't help but smile when we see a puppy. How that moment fills our heart with incredible warmth and a yearning to reach out and hold the puppy. What if reflection identified that as having a loving relationship with our inner child? This little morsel of awareness can motivate generosity and encourage gratitude. Both being an integral part of a prosperous journey.
What we see of the world around us is a projection of the movie that is playing in our head. So, what we feel about what we see truly is about ourselves. If what we see causes us to have a negative judgment, it's essential that we look in the mirror.
Whether it be projected onto another person, situation or object, judgment lowers our vibration and hinders our ability to live our lives open to the opportunity for greatness.
A simple example is when connecting with someone who is annoying because they talk a lot and always about themselves. Upon reflection, it is easy to see that the issue isn't that this person is annoying, but that we are annoyed. To say that they are annoying would mean that they would find themselves annoying. There are likely many people who don't find this person annoying at all. What this could be masking is that we don't want to be in a position to support someone. It could mean that we have a deep desire to express ourselves and are uncomfortable doing so. There are so many possibilities, and none of them are wrong. Because what we uncover is a part of who we are and every part of us deserves love. To the contrary, if it doesn't serve us, then it is time to let it go. What an amazing gift it is to come to this type of realization instead of just finding that person annoying.
This is true of good things as well. Like having a strong desire to cuddle or hug the puppy mentioned earlier. Beautiful! That could easily mean that we are comfortable engaging our inner child and allow it's existence to be necessary. How can that not be a good thing?
A healthy process of self-reflection comes in three parts. When allowing the opportunity to look inside it is vital to announce that what we are feeling is our perspective. Separating us from the emotional attachment to our thought, and opening up to safely look at ourselves and ask the question "What about me is showing up?" Lastly, there is forgiveness. We will most often remember to reflect when it is about something negative, something that questions our motives. Before any cascading emotion of shame creeps into our space, self-forgiveness will keep it at bay. But, if it doesn't, love that too. It too is a part of us.
The journey of life is a short one, so take every opportunity possible to make it an abundant one.
Leigh Burton: Author, International Speaker, NLP Practitioner, Cognitive Behavioral Therapist, Emotional Health Coach, Acceptance Commitment Therapist, an expert in letting go, and a lover of life.