What is the First Rule of Love? It is to listen, to be
fully present and to intently listen.
Listening is a skill that very few of us have taken the time to fully
What makes the act of listening a rule of love or perhaps
an example of love in action? It is simply this: when we take the time to
thoughtfully listen to others, being completely aware of, and in the “now”
moment, we are truly accessing our own ability to offer unconditional love and
As most of us are aware the unconditional kind of love
that Spirit asks of us comes only when we allow and accept others to be just as
they are without judging. When we take the time to thoughtfully listen to the
ideas, thoughts, desires and fears of others (without formulating our own
response before they are finished) we are acknowledging that “you” are as
important and valuable as “me”!
Being willing to give attention to others requires
effort and more than a little discipline. No matter how spiritual we feel we
are, there is that little voice, mostly ego, which says we and our ideas are
somehow “right”. However there are rewards in making that extra effort to give
an opportunity to others to be heard.
If you have ever worked in a business situation you are
aware of the value of knowing the feelings of employees as well as employers.
Information and new ideas allow improvement in the workplace. Certainly in
everyday life gathering fresh ideas can lead to broader understanding and the
possibility of real wisdom.
But there is one aspect of listening that is perhaps
the most important of all. That listening can only happen in the depths of the
silence of meditation where Spirit, your High Self and Soul dwell.
If you want to truly know and experience the expansion
of your personal life path, enter into that sacred silence and listen with your
mind and your heart. All the direction and help you will ever need are waiting
for you there. Now is the time. It is never too late. YOU CAN LIVE YOUR
When we are willing to become still and earnestly
desire guidance there is yet one more tool that will help. That tool is
gratitude. Express your gratitude for all that is in your life whether it is
health or sickness, friends or enemies, every experience in the past or present
because all of that has made you who you are today. Through it all you have
been taught and you have learned!
I firmly believe that gratitude and love are
inseparable. In the most deeply felt thankfulness we cannot help but love all
of life. Gratitude brings us into the awareness of how holy and magnificent a
gift this life is.