Do you find it easy or difficult to be alone? If you find it difficult then let that be an inner signal that spending time alone is the next thing you need to do. People avoid being alone and continue to fill their time with people and activities because boredom sets in quickly. If you take away people's cell phones, television and entertainment, they are at a lost on how to live and what to do. They have not learned to enjoy their own company and this is where solitude can help. Solitude is not to be feared and avoided but to be welcomed and treasured.
Let's first look at what solitude is not. Solitude is not loneliness, or, I'm bored, or, leave me alone type of thinking. Someone, for example, may want to be alone because they are struggling with a problem or have had a busy and bad day. This type of wanting to be alone is only an escape from a negative experience. Although this is understandable, and at times necessary, a person is still in some form of despair, stress or boredom.
So what then is solitude? Solitude is a unique opportunity to understand yourself and your connection to life. It is developing the courage to be alone and to purposely minimize your activities. It is not about doing but about being; to simply "be" in the presence of self and life. It is finding ways to calm the body and calm the mind. This can be done through quiet walks alone, warm baths, listening to pleasant music, a personal hobby, reading positive and inspiring material, prayer/meditation or spending time in nature. These are all distinct passageways to your inner sanctuary. You are intentionally stepping away from your everyday activities (and people) to put down your troubles, put down your fears, put down your frustrations and take a break from such things. And, later if you so choose, you can pick them up again. That is, of course, if you like to carry around such negativity.
Solitude is not about being alone to dwell and worry about your problems. It is a time out from your problems. To not think about much at all, and by doing so, you will reconnect to the sacred and grander part of who you are. It is a chance for you to reacquaint yourself with your own Soul. You enter solitude even when your days are going well. Therefore, it is not a disconnection from problems but a connection with grace. All experiences you have, whether good or bad are felt by you and nobody else. You cannot feel what someone else is feeling and nobody can feel what you feel. Since you are the sole experiencer of your experiences, then your aim is to have as much positive feelings as possible. And, solitude can provide this for you. If you do not have time for solitude, then you have too much to do, and you must revise your lifestyle to make room for solitude.
Also, solitude is not just a "feel good" time out. It is far more than that. From a spiritual level it helps to raise your energetic vibration. Whenever you are in nature or meditation for example, during such moments you are receiving the higher vibrations of cosmic intelligence. You receive the wisdom, strength and love from the higher realms of consciousness and Soul energy. As you tune into the sacred energy of your Soul you will receive information and guidance. Your mind naturally begins to function better and your physical body re-energizes.
Every time you enter solitude you are giving the intention to connect to Divinity. And, by doing so, you will find that your life is naturally improving. Problems are being solved and problems are not showing up like they used to. This occurs because you are raising your consciousness, and therefore, shifting your reality for the better. Silence and solitude is an experience our Soul craves. It's as if our Soul wants to contemplate itself and to send you messages of higher truth and love. Many people are uncomfortable to be alone, and yet, being alone gives you the opportunity to increase your confidence, raise your self-esteem and feel more secure within yourself.
Finally, keep in mind, as you travel through the serenity of solitude you may think that you are alone. It is during such times however that you have the exceptional opportunity to sense, reunite and remember your "spiritual family" (or guides) who at this time exist at the invisible and higher realms of awareness. And, as you feel the presence of your guides, always remember that you are divinely guided and loved.
About the Author:
Bob Mangroo is a personal potential coach and spiritual teacher. His training and coaching work includes hypnosis, meditation and Neuro-Linguistic Programming(NLP). In addition, he has earned his Bachelor of Arts degree in Psychology at York University in Toronto, Canada. www.bobmangroo.com