Abstract: We all have an inner chatterbox that we sometimes want to shut down. In this article, Amy addresses where this often comes from and how to address it so that you can troubleshoot your own enlightenment.
Most of us have heard the little voice in our head criticize us. It might warn us of impending doom or that we, ourselves, are not good enough to achieve our goals. Many of us suffer with our inner critic most of our waking hours and even sometimes during sleep. The inner critic becomes a constant companion continues because we might think it’s necessary to keep ourselves in line.
Some of us torment ourselves more often than we realize. We begin to dissociate from emotional pain in which we become accustomed to. This allows it and other negative emotions, like anger, fear and jealousy to spread and grow.
It doesn’t matter whether or not that voice is criticizing ourselves or someone else. Either way, it affects our happiness and well-being. It affects those around us, too.
For example – We often allow people or small events to stress us out. Maybe someone gave a negative opinion on how someone looks. It’s not about the person they are speaking of. It’s about the person making the opinion. That person has just altered their happiness and stress levels.
With coaching the mindset, we create a kind of salve to help heal this critical part that often seems to have a mind of its own, as we have previously failed to reign it in. We create self-compassion as we release blocks to moving on and moving forward.
So if you’re stressed out and have a very active critical voice inside you, wouldn’t you like to take a break from it or even create an internal environment that doesn’t allow that part of you to get out of control in the first place? Problems at work, fears, being overweight and other suffering can be remedied when we work together with someone as a team.
Experiment With This
Notice your own internal stress. (e.g. anger, resentment, fear, depression, etc.)
Face the part of you that is getting more of your mental time than you desire and listen to what it really wants. (It’s likely protecting you from something.)
Accept that it is there, instead of attempting to ignore it or push it away. Accept that it’s a part of you for the time being.
Tell that critical part to take a vacation (or at least not to interrupt you until a certain time of day and then only for a designated 30 minutes when you are alone and can process it.) It’s not always easy to do this, but with practice it can be helpful.
About the Author:
Amy Hale is a Hypnotherapist with advanced certifications in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Medical forms of hypnosis. She also offers EFT and Energy Mechanics to help others overcome insecurities and create better versions of themselves and their lives. Drawing from personal experience and research, she often works with those who are challenged with auto-immune difficulties, as well as, struggling to overcome long-formed, personal self-sabotage.