I am in way over my head, how am I going to pay off my debt? Oh, and I have so much work to do tomorrow, maybe I should just do some of it tonight... Wait, I have those dinner plans though...
Don’t we all feel familiar with those thoughts? It seems like, for the most of us, our mind is mostly somewhere in between the past and the future. This “between” does not mean here and now. Maybe thirty minutes ago, or five hours from now. So close, yet so far!
What does living in the Now mean?
We have probably all heard the phrases "live in the moment", "be mindful", "focus on the Now", etcetera. But what is meant by this? What are we really talking about, besides some popular quote on a coffee mug?
Living in the Now means freedom from worrying. It means being able to eat our breakfast and taste it as well, instead of chugging it down while worrying about how on earth there will be enough hours to finish all of today’s tasks. It means being aware of our bodies and our surroundings; the smell, shapes, colors, taste, temperature and everything we are usually too busy to get the pleasure of experiencing.
It’s easier than we think
How is this possible, we may wonder? The easy answer to this question is; by simply doing it. It is in our nature. And it’s done by simply focusing on our existence. The society keeps our minds increasingly busy, and thus we forget our Being and True Nature. At the same time, we start asking ourselves the million dollar question; There has got to be more to life that this? Luckily, there is, and it’s right in front of our noses! It is right here, right now. We just got to get there. It is that easy, and that difficult.
A probable reason for our skepticism towards living in the Now is this; in today’s society, money is important. Future plans are important. Work and family schedules are important. And we fear that, by living in the Now, we will show up unprepared for everything, and our lives will turn in to chaos. Actually, it’s quite the contrary! Living in the Now activates the ability to look at the past and future with a present perspective, which means a calm perspective. We will still be prepared where we need to, only with less stress and less time worrying about it.
3 easy steps to find the Now
1. Allow yourself to take a break from the past and the future. This is important, because the logic controlling mind will try to keep your focus elsewhere.
2. Focus completely on your breathing for a while; feel it entering and leaving your mouth/nose, notice the temperature, and follow it all the way down in your stomach and back. Keep your eyes closed if it helps. When you get into the flow, you can expand the focus to your entire body. Start with your feet and work your way up; notice feeling of weight, temperature, tensions and emotions. When you have full awareness of your breath and body, you can use the same ways to focus on your surroundings.
3. If you find it difficult to maintain focus, repeating a mantra can be helpful. Make it something easy like “everything is perfect here and now”.
For a deeper answer to questions that may arise, get a copy of the classic Eckhart Tolle book "The Power of Now". It is all put simply enough for us to understand, and at the same time it answers the questions that our logic minds struggle to comprehend. It might just be the best investment of your life!
About the author:
As a certified coach with an educational background in Sociology, Change Management and NLP, Anne Mari Ramsdal aims to help people wake up to their true Being through writing, speaking and coaching, She will shortly offer webinars on different topics relating to this. She also loves to work with helping groups and organizations becoming more successful.